For starters I've emailed her softball coach this morning, advised him of the situation. Gave him my ex-husbands email address and told him this is for practice and game correspondence only, any personal correspondence about DD must come through me first. I did this because I can see the OW emailing and trying to get information that she doesn't need. I am going to try to speak with my daughter again this weekend when I see her. She will be at her dad's. I will no longer answer his phone calls on my mobile number. He can call our daughter at home, of she's not home, he can leave a message. When ballgames start I will sit as far away as possible. I have already notified the coaches wife of our situation. No more bending to meet his needs. I guess I will just have to learn as I go and cannot thank you all enough for the information you've provided up till this point! I'm definitely going to dive into this thing.
While it's a good first step, it's not nearly enough.
Here's what needs to happen.
1) Find an IM and forward them the IM training manual (we can supply the link).
2) Change phone number and email address
3) Prepare a semi-PB letter explaining this change to your ex (we can help you with this...and your IM can email it)
4) Expose to all relevant parties, such as the school and explaining that for future events that you CANNOT be seated with your ex.
5) I would recommend to you that if your ex is going to show up at these events, like BH stated, I would be smart about what events you will be going to. A kindergarten orientation when you are trying to get into a peaceful/different mindset about WS is not worth it, IMO. Post here regarding this issue and we can help you along.
I am sure there is more and others can chime in.
And lame....we don't want to hear excuses. OK? I was one week out from dday 3 and barely functioning and able to pull this off in less than a week.
