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Re: Friend in Trouble
JtotheC #2846229 03/04/15 10:15 PM
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Originally Posted by JtotheC
Not really. I just know her husband who, like I said, is a friend/coworker. It looks like she's going to hold him accountable for his behavior so, I should probably just let that happen. At the end of the day, he chose to step out on his marriage and he should be held accountable for that.
My mistake, I thought you were friends with the couple.

Why don't you ask him straight up if he wants to save his marriage and if hes willing to give his BW just compensation?

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Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Originally Posted by JtotheC
I don't have answers to those questions. We aren't that close so, I guess he hasn't told me the entire story and, I haven't talked to his wife about it so, I'm in the dark as far as her side is concerned.


I would be careful here, J. You aren't close yet he's turned to you for support. Without making reparation to his BW presumably.

When the WS fails to get forgiveness and pallyness from their BS - they sometimes want to bluff forgiveness\ support from another one. Eases the conscience. I was astonished at how many cheaters wanted me to say their situation was 'different'.

If he knows about your situation, I would be wary.


What would you do if you were not afraid?

"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
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