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I have made it very clear from early in our 20+ yr. marriage that this is not acceptable (Radical Honesty)...My hope is that the monitoring won't be necessary, that I will get bored with what a great husband I have. So far, I have been disappointed as far as the porn goes. Twenty years later you still hope monitoring won't be necessary?  Twenty years!! Do you hear yourself?
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"My hope is that the monitoring won't be necessary"
Monitoring will be necessary as long as he has the means to watch porn. You must remove the temptation. That is the solution.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Dana says her husband has been viewing pornography, and continues to lie about it. Dana has caught him several times he will promise to stop and later return to his porn habit. They have seen counselors with no success after spending allot of money. Her husband is not on board with Marriage Builders policies, and has even considered divorce. Radio Clip Segment #2 Segment #3
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Bonnie writes her husband feels his pornography is not as bad as her affair. She caught him using porn and he would stop but later continue. After finding porn on his phone she installed an app which made him very angry. Radio Clip on Pornography
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I know there might be many tech savvy people here, vut fund some to help you. Its not 100% but looking into https://www.opendns.com/ and set it up. You can monitor internet sites and set up filters to block sights and categories of subjects you want to block on your home internet. The nice thing is OpenDNS is free for home use. If you need help contact me and ill see what i can do to help.
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A "Psychology Today" article about the negative side effects of pornography. Radio Clip
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Sandy writes that her partner has an issue with pornography and wants him to honest about using it. How should we handle this? Radio Clip Segment #2
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Rob says he has been pornography-free for nearly one year but asks how he can rebuild his marriage after years of viewing internet porn. Rob's wife also emailed in her prospective. Radio Clip
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Nancy writes that her emotions get in the way when trying to solve problems in her marriage. Shes is afraid of her reaction if she approaches her husband about his use of pornography. Radio Clip
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Karen writes her 12-year-old granddaughter discovered porn on the computer and is addicted to it. She is a normally sweet and innocent girl, but they fear what images she could be seeing and have tried to keep her from the Internet. Radio Clip
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Two emailers write about pornography. First Katrina writes is porn addiction equal to an affair? Then Lana writes two years ago she discovered her husband was looking at porn, her husband says the marriage was over anyway. He claims he needs to remember what women look like, and she says she has gained weight. Radio Clip Segment #2 Segment #3
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A study suggests pornography could be ruining men's sex lives Radio Clip
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Debbie writes her husband smokes marijuana and views pornography and is unwilling to stop. He doesn't seem to care about her, and she has considered leaving him. Radio Clip
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Julie writes she is separated from her husband of 30 years because of his porn addiction, which he is unwilling to end. Radio Clip
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Samantha is crushed because her husband is looking at pornography. Radio Clip
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A man writes his wife of 13 years has been watching a lot of pornography and he is concerned. She is watching gang bang porn and he is concerned about her intentions. Radio Clip
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Samantha is crushed because her husband is looking at pornography. Radio Clip
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