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Filing this morning. Pray for me and my marriage please, friends. Will do!
Happily remarried to wonderful woman who I found using the guidelines in "Buyers, Renters, Freeloaders" 2 baby boys, working on #3 and couldn't ask for anything more. When my ex's affair happened: BH 28, Ex-WW:29 Married: 7 years Together: 8 years D-day: 10/5/2014 D filed: 1/22/2015 D Final: 6/4/2015 My story
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Filing this morning. Pray for me and my marriage please, friends. I so hope this shakes him up and he comes to his senses.
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Filing this morning. Pray for me and my marriage please, friends. I so hope this shakes him up and he comes to his senses. Me, too. It really seems like he thinks he can have his cake and eat it too.
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Congratulations on the job! Also, glad to see that you fully participated in Holy Week. Holy Week can bring a special grace that will center you and strengthen you.
Happy Easter!
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Happy Easter JT3OU! I ate EVERYTHING yesterday after fasting for several days. So good!
Also, what if he refuses to pay his share of taxes? As usual, I am doing the taxes this year and we owe about $1,700. I can see him not paying half of that, particularly because he is being served this week. I am going to have my IM tell him to please drop off a check when he picks of DD on Saturday, but I can see him not doing it. I gotta pay it, obviously by the 15th.
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I would give him a copy of the taxes and ask for the check, just as you said. If he refuses, then let him know that you will be contacting your lawyer, and if it comes to that he will be accountable not just for his half but for the fees associated with your attorney's intervention. If he's smart, he'll know that comes out to the full $1,700 and then some.
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Just wanted to chime in with a congrats on the job!
I honestly cannot imagine dealing with both a WS and unemployment, you are strong to be dealing with this as well as you are. You'll always be able to look back to this period when you face adversity in the future and think "it's not any worse that that, and I made it through that."
Praying also for your filing. There's no way around it, it's just difficult as a BS. But, it's the beginning of feeling better because you're regaining some control of your circumstances.
You'll feel better about in a month or so than you do now. I feel much better than I did in January when I filed.
Happily remarried to wonderful woman who I found using the guidelines in "Buyers, Renters, Freeloaders" 2 baby boys, working on #3 and couldn't ask for anything more. When my ex's affair happened: BH 28, Ex-WW:29 Married: 7 years Together: 8 years D-day: 10/5/2014 D filed: 1/22/2015 D Final: 6/4/2015 My story
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I'm still not sure if WH was served yet. Lawyer has been unable to confirm.
Broke Plan B a bit today (Bad PW) when he was picking up DD. I was behind the door as usual and just let her out, but then I chose to say, "taxes?" Since I need the money for taxes. Then he asked if I got his text. I didn't say anything because I haven't gotten texts from him in 6 months--what the? Then I just closed the door. The whole time I was behind the door so he could t see me. That was a dumb Plan B break. Boo me!
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Boo you!
Have your IM request tax info.
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I already did. I need money from him to pay them. He probably won't give it.
I am going to wait until the 15th and see if he files them. I had just set up a password on HR Block and gave it to my IM.
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You can still file without submitting payment. Are you filing them electronically? He gave you his W-2 and filing joint and married?
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Many a good man has failed because he had a wishbone where his backbone should have been.
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Yes BR. I'm not super worried. I can pay and recoup later.
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Yes BR. I'm not super worried. I can pay and recoup later. I don't know if you are filing joint but if you are I would reconsider that and work up a return for married but separate to avoid more drama with him over the taxes. If he doesn't file, the IRS will look at him for failure to file and they will leave you alone since you filed. Since CA is a community state, you can recoup some of it later but who the IRS has issues with down the road is what you want to consider...if it's worth the potential future drama and headache.
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Many a good man has failed because he had a wishbone where his backbone should have been.
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I owe a lot more if I file separately or even head of household. Prior to all of this drama, I was working full time and he was working parttime, so I took some exemptions. When he started working full time, I forgot to change my W4. So it's really me that is driving the tax issue. I owe less filing jointly even if I have to pay the whole thing, than I would separately.
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I owe a lot more if I file separately or even head of household. Prior to all of this drama, I was working full time and he was working parttime, so I took some exemptions. When he started working full time, I forgot to change my W4. So it's really me that is driving the tax issue. I owe less filing jointly even if I have to pay the whole thing, than I would separately. Gotcha
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Many a good man has failed because he had a wishbone where his backbone should have been.
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If you can swing it, you might want to just pay them and move on. I know it sucks to take this hit, but you have a lot of years of child support you want to get from him and this is complicating the issue and might cause you a lot of stress and drama.
You can always ask for this later in the filing settlement with your attorney, but at least you'd wouldn't have the issue with the government breathing down your back.
Oh I see that you posted that...
I think the real issue is that this is sucking you back in and interfering with your recovery. It is so hard to let go, I know, but it is in your best interest.
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I agree. If I have to just pay it now, I will and try to recoup during the settlement.
I also wonder if he got served. I have no clue.
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You'll find out soon enough. It really is hard not knowing.
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You'll find out soon enough. It really is hard not knowing. If you know the case number, or even enter either parties last name, in the counties near me, you can find the court case and status and click on the tab to see if the party gas been served yet. LTL
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