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When I first learned of the affair, I did let my family and friends know about it...I also feel as tho' his parents may already know as well, because his mother started displaying odd behavior towards me (maybe as of to be hiding something) at the time, I felt that maybe she felt like she was being forced to take sides, as she and I used to be really close before all of this happened....so, I took it upon myself to end contact with his family. As I already mentioned and I also asked advice from Dr. Harley (to which he recommended) that I go ahead and pursue the Alienation Of Affection lawsuit against my husbands' affair partner. To do that, you need to know who she is. Do you know her identity? (Just "yes" or "no" - don't tell us here!)
BW
Married 1989
His PA 2003-2006
2 kids.
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You should properly expose the affair even if you Plan B or D.
For your WH to have started an affair within several months of marriage is disturbing. The newlywed period should be the very opposite, What was your courtship like? Disagreements about anything? Did you live together?
It would be helpful if you provided some basic background.
BW - me
exWH - serial cheater
2 awesome kids
Divorced 12/2011
Many a good man has failed because he had a wishbone where his backbone should have been.
We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face... we must do that which we think we cannot.
--------Eleanor Roosevelt
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For your WH to have started an affair within several months of marriage is disturbing. It makes me think that he had her on the side all along - before you were married.
BW
Married 1989
His PA 2003-2006
2 kids.
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My husband and I were married less than 2 years...no children involved. Approximately 6-8 months into the marriage, I started noticing changes in my husbands' behavior (he started showing sins of being distant and making excuses to leave and do things which did not include me, was staying gone hours at a time with no logical explanation) I voiced my concerns many times which led to arguments mostly and him denying things...I even asked if he was involved with someone else, to which he also denied. When he made the move to walk out on our marriage, he made claims that he was just unhappy and no longer wanted to be married. I later discovered that he had infact left for another woman...as for how they met, I have no clue... So, he started this behaviour about six months in, and finally left you about a year after you married? You need to do all you can to find out whether he was involved with her before you married. I don't know anything about that US law, but I imagine it could help your case.
BW
Married 1989
His PA 2003-2006
2 kids.
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Is this it? Radio Clip of d0204b's question I haven't found the 4-15-15 clip. Could it have been another day?
FWW/BW (me)
WH
2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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