Have you exposed this affair to her church, and her training organisation?

LadyAngel, you appear to have been very laid-back and scatty about your life so far, and you are still being laid-back and somewhat incoherent on this forum, and that is putting people off helping you.

Can you get yourself together, and write more information about your situation? You don't need to text single lines like that. You are not having an "OMG" text chat with your girlfriend. You are trying to save your marriage. Please be a bit more focused and informative.

I'm not happy with any of them being there. It feels like another
betrayal.
I've been staying with the same friend since July.
OWH not on her friends list. Son moved in after her h moved out but I will try asking him.

Don't know what church she attends. And yes, I did inform her trading organization

I'm sharing what little information I have. That is all the knowledge I have of the situation. I wish to God I did have more.
Until I found out about ow in April I believed we had recovered. I believed our marriage was good and growing stronger every day. I was devastated and still am.

My son wouldn't even tell me her name. I found her name on his business likes on Facebook (he sales meat door to door. H had told me their first names when he moved up with them. I was able to put two and two together from that and what he told me about them which wasn't much.

H said he was living with them because of issues with the person he was staying with before them. That is wasn't me and he love ad me. I trusted him and was blind sided by all this.

I am devastated by this whole thing and I'm sorry if that makes me hard to understand. Also, two years ago after losing my buff I was diagnosed with severe depression, anxiety and adjustment disorder.

I'm sharing what little information I have. That is all the knowledge I have of the situation. I wish to God I did have more.
Until I found out about ow in April I believed we had recovered. I believed our marriage was good and growing stronger every day. I was devastated and still am.

My son wouldn't even tell me her name. I found her name on his business likes on Facebook (he sales meat door to door. H had told me their first names when he moved up with them. I was able to put two and two together from that and what he told me about them which wasn't much.

H said he was living with them because of issues with the person he was staying with before them. That is wasn't me and he love ad me. I trusted him and was blind sided by all this.

I am devastated by this whole thing and I'm sorry if that makes me hard to understand. Also, two years ago after losing my buff I was diagnosed with severe depression, anxiety and adjustment disorder.

I'm very sorry to hear this.

What were the rumours that caused you to leave? They must have been convincing if you believed them. How did you find out that they were not true? Who was the rumoured OW?

Just general rumours, no ow in particular. I figured it out when the times and dates didn't match up because he was with me at those times (after a hospitalization and med adjustment). It was also during a time when I wasn't taking my meds like I was supposed to, and that made them less effective. It was pure stupidity on my part, I ended up on a med that was bad for me and ended up in the hospital for a week because it gave me suicidal thoughts and had to have a med adjustment. I hurt my h badly and felt so guilty because of it. Thankfully he forgave me, and understood why I did it.

Sorry for what you are going through. I hope you realize that what you wrote ^^ above is not the reason that your WH is a serial cheater. Many BS want to cling to some hope that their WS can get counseling or if you can just love them enough they will fix their issues and turn around. Which is not the case.

Your WH has affairs because he has horrible boundaries around women and likes to get attention and needs met out side the marriage. Period.

Also....this OW is not the problem. If you were able to get rid of her, your WH had to dramatically radically change his lifestyle (limit exposure to opposite sex), become transparent and you two would have to spend all of your free time together. And even then...you would have to watch him.

Pointing this out because, again, I could be wrong but my reading of your thread tells me you think this happened because you "moved out" and left your WH vulnerable to this OW, which is not the case.

My suggestion would be in the first instance to expose, in the second to get yourself to a lawyer.

I would not communicate with your husband at all while you get this done.

The reason you come across as so unorganized is because you've been in the hands of a serial cheat for years - it's driven you to severe depression. Dealing with an in-contact OW parenting your husbands child is enormously traumatic. 10 years!

Protect yourself legally and financially. You can set conditions for recovery after the affair ends (it will) - but you have to stop making yourself available and being in contact with him for now.

You are making yourself ill and you will lose your son.

Go to the Exposure thread in Melody Lanes signature and tell us your exposure plan.

That doesn't mean it wasn't true. What it means is you didn't pursue the rumours to their source or put spyware on him. The dates were wrong, but not necessarily the rumours.

He IS a serial cheat, after all. He has broken up someone's marriage. The only thing you need feel guilty about is not investigating the rumours properly.

I have exposed her and h to all her friends and family that are on her Facebook page. Using the letter for an example that Melody used:Dear friend of ***EDIT*** ,

It grieves me to write this letter but I believe all of her family and friends should be aware that ***EDIT*** is having an affair with my husband, ***EDIT***. We have been married for 22 years. They have been having this affair since March according to the evidence.

I would ask that you use your influence with ***EDIT*** to persuade her to have my husband and our sons move out of her home and leave my husband alone. You should also watch your own husbands around her because she is no friend to marriage.
She claims to be a Christian woman while she disobeys God's word and his commandments. She is supposed to be studying pastoral counseling while living a life that is totally wrong according to God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit.

I would appreciate it if someone would notify her parents and ask them to call me at ***EDIT***
Thank you,
***EDIT***
Happily married to my cute husband!

To ensure safety and protect privacy online, please do not post names, numbers etc.

Your son lives with his dad and OW and is okay with his dad having an affair on his mom? Why is he okay with his dad having an affair on you?

I don't know why he's fine with it, it feels like another betrayal to me.
Ow and wh know I have putted their affair to her family and friends.
This was the text I received from him a few minutes agoNot selling anymore today and stop harassing and posting [censored] we been through for a long time. Our son moved in on his own free will.
How should I respond to it.

Don't respond to it. Do not respond to anything he says to you that is spiteful and full of bile.

Someone (I think it was indiegirl) posted to you that you should expose the affair and then go to Plan B, and you should take that advice. Your H is now living with OW, so you should not try to win him back. You should cut off all contact with him, to protect your mental health.

Are you legally married?

Yes we're legally married for 22 years.
Should I confront ow by messaging her? Want to say she claims to be a Christian and studying to be a pastor and pastoral counseling and yet you defey God's word by having an affair and sleeping with my husband. A Godly woman would not do such a thing, you are not living according to God's word and should practice what you preach or choose another career because you have no business counseling anyone the way you live your life.Just want to let you know he and I have been intimate until...

Is it normal for as to try to rewrite history to suit his needs?

Think about this calmly.

Do you think that, if you send her that message, you will cause her to think deeply about what you have said, and examine her conscience and her relationship with God, and then give up the affair?

If she was capable of caring about what you feel about what she is doing, and how that goes against God's will, she would not be doing it at all. She would have repented and begged God's forgiveness - and stopped.

She doesn't care what you think. She doesn't care about your definition of right and wrong. You are the last person whose views she cares about.

If you send that message, you will show her how powerless you feel yourself to be, that a pointless rant is the best you can do.

Go to Plan B. Ignore her, and ignore him. You cannot influence them today.

Yes; not only is it normal for him to rewrite history now that he is having an affair. It is almost mandatory. Almost all WSs do it.

Great exposure of OW but What about exposure to YOURS and HIS family?

Have you told your son it is not OK not to live with dads mistress? Explained that adultery is wrong and hurts you?

I think you need Plan B and a lawyer.

See what you can legally do about removing your child from the A.

It is her 10y-old stepson, the OC from his last affair if I understand this correctly, whose mother OW cannot take care of him, because she is a basket case.