You are practically begging for an affair which will make one of your child's parents unrecognizably ugly. My marriage was quite independent of each other and I would not settle for that ever again because I know it is a precursor to an affair. We were actually in love and no one planned on a divorce but it happened because unless your marriage gets better and better, it gets worse and worse. Unless you are completely one, trouble will come.

You cant put an emotional state in the freezer and hope it will keep. Theres no way you can keep a (miserable) situation going 15 years - it will implode long before that.

Also why on earth would you want to give your children ringside seats at how not to be in love? A crash course in neglect and indifference. All children deserve a strong mother with standards for romance, never mind anger. Show them how to stick up to an angry spouse and for personal happiness. For a sacred marriage. You might even get a loving lasting marriage out of it. You have nothing to lose.

Yeah, my last post wasn't wise at all. It kind of stinks thinking of going 16 more years without much interaction between us. I don't want to loathe my husband nor want him to loathe me. Didn't think of that. Not to mention, I didn't think of the affair potential. Being distant, eliminates fights but we loose the union concept, so, yes, not a wise thought.

I'd melt for his kiss, meaning my love bank isn't empty. Yep, I need to sit with my husband for a serious talk, a good one and we need to evaluate us weekly, think of a way of measuring improvements in love bustings elimination, emotional needs and back to 15 hours UA.

Thanks

Why don't you take coaching with the Harleys if you can afford it?
You need an accountability partner in your marriage and both of you have a lot to lose.