Yeah! I'm out for various reasons 1. Marrital incompatibilty my wife is far to beautiful and I'm not, we aren't a match. Instead of marrying for compatibility I focused on the exterior instead of the interior. Before dating my wife I briefly had a relationship with a woman of substance and character. However it ended due to my irresponsibility.
2. Come on how can I compete against a good looking man? Our home looked like Best Buy with the newest technology. The babysitter cleaned the house, washed the dishes, washed the clothes etc. what can I do to find me attractive like om? Write a poem? Improve my listening skills? Om ignored her was a dirty guy torn faded blue jeans. Should I ignore her too? Come on! We disagreed and I was accused of verbal abuse, with om it was romance. Wife told me that I'm a nice guy. Get this last night she told me that om was a jerk. Om smokes pot and she needs to rescue him... Me well I smoke cigarettes and need to use Nicorette and take responsibility for myself. I like classical music and she and om like rock. Accuses me of being a couch potato. What do we have in common? Wife said if you can't dance you can't do nothing for me, I can't dance yet she wants to be with me how does that sound? It's like we're so opposite that we're going in opposite directions. Might I teach her to learn to like classical music? How does one learn to like classical music? Myself never learned to like opera forget about it. She eats steak while I eat vegan... Think I'm going to stop now! What is your plan to end this farcity?
Yahoo, after your wife comes on and tells us that you left her with a bunch of pictures of younger women (obviously to give her the impression that you're out for a revenge affair), I'm not buying any of this crap.
This is a list of excuses.
Man up, you're better than this.
If you want to divorce her, fine. We get it. But do it honorably. Leaving her with the impression that you're out trolling for younger women and throwing a list of complaints we already have provided answers for at us is man-child behavior.
We've given you some reasonable answers about how to become attractive to her and I'm wondering if you're actually interested in becoming attractive to her or if it's just something to throw in her face while you call her shallow.
What has happened to you is truly awful but it also takes guts to do what your wife did in coming clean. Most people can't do it. If you're really that worried about abs and dancing, get your [censored] in the gym and take dancing lessons. It's not rocket science.
You want compatibility? Our program builds it. That's what the people here do. And you've already called your wife a 10/10. AND she wants to recover with you.
If you walk away for the reasons you're citing here, I don't get it. You have every right to divorce if you are too hurt to go back to her but what you keep mentioning is a list of very fixable issues. Meanwhile you taunt your wife about other women and abandon the home. What about your daughter? Does she factor into your thinking at all right now?
If "teaching" a spouse to enjoy the same genre of music you like and become a vegan with you is your idea of compatibility, I would add that you might not find compatibility with ANY woman out there. Compatibility isn't your wife being a cheerleader for your favorite hobbies and interests. It's the both of you brainstorming and finding new things you both enjoy.
Dr. Harley covered this issue on his show earlier this week and provided a very good analogy. Most couples get frustrated because their half-dozen or so individual activities don't match up. BUT there are probably 1000 or more different recreational activities you can do together as a couple out there. You and your wife only need to find about 5 you both enjoy to have plenty to enjoy together.
Don't hang it up over dancing, diets and music. Plenty of happily married couples don't have those things in common. We can help you find plenty of other things to enjoy together.
