The shock causes me to question myself (am I pretty enough - even though people comment how nice I look). I worry, have fear, doubt and feel the stress from feeling despair.
Howdobyou curb sudden thoughts.., here is what happened today:
We are in recovery and have gotten over some bumps in the road to recovering from his unfaithful activity that went on for about 5 years.
----> It has been 8 months since I discovered the indiscretions that lead to my husbands infidelity.
Here is my feat doubt situation - sudden questioning our relationship. All was good today. Then while in the grocery store (with him) I get this feeling of stress/worry and wonderment. I am hoping this will pass. I wondered at that moment if this feeling will only go away or will it be like this if I stay in our 30+ marriage.
Quick review: I was very happy for 30 years. I love him. He is getting involved in our church - now -- he wasn't before.
Hi Wondering, it used to be horrible in the grocery store for me also. I would somehow look around and think that he was looking at some sort of smorgasbord of women. I ended up having to run out of the store many times.
My H and I were married for 30+ years when I discovered his very long term A. It rocked my world to realize that so much of our lives together had been a lie.
Two plus years later, grocery stores are fine now. H and I shop together on Sundays. So NO it won't stay like this forever.
If you will first complete each thing on the checklist that MelodyLane posted for you, then you will find yourself in a safe environment where you can work to build a new M, one that pleases you both immensely.
Please tell us what all has been completed on that checklist. And what is left to do?