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We are not suggesting that you GET divorced, only that you file, get legal protection in place and then drag it out. There is no reason not to do it and many good reasons to do it. You can still work on your marriage. And if you reconcile, you simply drop the divorce. I am still looking for help to bring her out of her Withdrawn State & back into Conflict Stage. Hoping for her to change, I fear, I may be losing valuable time. Is she still in touch with the OM? Are you watching her? Because she might just be in the FOG. It doesn't sound like the affair has ended.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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The way I look at it, in the future, I'd regret not doing everything to repair the marriage, & I sure wouldn't care I lose a few thousands. I am confused why you would take this risk? And in your case, it is more than the money because she has demonstrated reckless behavior with your children. The risk here is much greater than money, it is also protection of your children. She has already shown you she will leave them at home alone to pursue her affair and take them out of town to punish and scare you. Why wouldnt you want to protect your family?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Seeing no legal separation in our great State, I am hoping someone else may have a better method to circumvene & offer protection. The way this is done in Texas is to file for divorce, then drag out the divorce. Because you file for divorce does not mean the marriage is over. Get a lawyer, and explain to him your goals.
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I am still looking for help to bring her out of her Withdrawn State & back into Conflict Stage. Then follow instructions to the letter.
If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app! Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8. Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010 If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.
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Thank you all for the input.
Not an easy decision, and I since she has not moved out, I will get my act together in the mean time.
my gut tighten up as I think about this.
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