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Is anything that she is using to facilitate her affair being paid by you? Does she pay for all her own devices? Everything is paid by me indirectly. For a long time we have been a single (my) income family. She started working recently, not because we needed more money, but because she wanted to. She makes very little money. We do not have separate bank accounts, so she does not pay for all her own devices. Is her phone one of the ways she facilitates her affair? Then you should turn her phone off.
FWW/BW (me)
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2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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You don't need to worry about Plan B for another 6 months at the earliest. Concentrate on Exposure and Plan A right now. I do not know if I can continue plan A anymore. I just cannot take it anymore. She saw him again yesterday. Being nice to her is almost impossible. She is disrespectful in interacting with me, almost confrontational, ironic, she laughs at me. Our suggestion would be to try plan A. You are in Plan Hsbnd, a plan of your own design. What is your experience in dealing with affairs? Because I would have to point out that your own plan is not working.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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See your doctor for an antidepressant to get you through this time.
No one here will berate you if you chose to divorce. But you should be in Plan A or Plan D at this time. Plan A is what to do if you want to save your marriage.
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