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Yes I have. Only thing in debating is a follow up email that I just mentioned. I feel thus may jeperdize her job. But then again work is definitely her secret second life hiding place
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Yes I have. Only thing in debating is a follow up email that I just mentioned. I feel thus may jeperdize her job. But then again work is definitely her secret second life hiding place She has jeopardized her job with her unprofessional behavior. The best thing that could happen to you all is her losing her job.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Believe me, if she loses her job, it won't say because "her husband told us XXXXX." The reason will be her OWN unprofessional behavior.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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True. How do I deal with the fallout from that
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True. How do I deal with the fallout from that What do you mean?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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] Yeah I hit all those. Her second affair was a coworker at the same place as the third. Now that her supervisors are aware of her problem I'm tempted to send a follow up email stating the current affair is not the first and this is an ongoing issue for her. Thoughts? [/quote] What exactly did you tell the workplace? Did you give the facts about her affair along with the OM's name? Why is there this confusion?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I gave them facts and names about the current affair. Last night I was able to sit back and realize all her infidelity is at the work olace. I feel I've left a loose end by not exposing the other affair she had at the same company
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"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Exactly who did you notify at her work?
If you did not go to the VP of HR and another VP you fell short. Underlings like to cover up problems, especially if they are friends with the OM.
Companies don't like the trouble these things lead to.
You might want to consider talking to an attorney about this, as it appears to be tacitly approved policy to support adultery. You might have grounds for a lawsuit. A well crafted letter from an attorney to the head of HR will be laser guided bomb that will blow up affair land quickly.
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