Merry christmas. I got served with an order of protection. It sounds bogus...she stated i caused HER emotional distress. I guess its time i get an attorney. Obviously i cant work now because of this. I know i will win at the hearing. Any advice?
The same thing happened to me. My WW tried to file a PO against me because " I was crazy , telling people that she had an affair and I emailed her contacts"... in my state, it didn't work.. you need to have a real threat to safety or bruises, blood, etc.. to even get a PO. She went to another "more liberal, yankee" state and got a PO just by saying she was afraid. I flew there two times and spent a small fortune to get it thrown out. The first trip was to get it tossed and the second was to get it taken off my record. Bottom line is go fight it. If you have a good lawyer as I did, it presented an opportunity to get her statements on record which can later be used against her which came in very handy in my case.
You need to understand that we are all going down the same path here... the wayward scripts are almost identical. Many months later, my ww has not recollection or comprehension of the things that she has done. She is completely oblivious.
I too am confused... do you look at all this extreme crazy behavior as a reason to run away? or simply part of the script of the wayward and you will move past it.
I have seen so many stories on here that are the same thing... it's given me hope that all this behavior which is inexcusable is all just an affair at the bottom of it. People have recovered their marriages after far worse.
If you read Dr Harely's book, he alludes to how the wayward will act after exposure and during withdrawal. I would recommend that you take a step back and look at the big picture...
The way I look at it... I exposed the affair (RIGHT THING TO DO! I successfully killed it or at least planted the poison seed... and even if the affair is not killed, my kids and the world will all know what happened. My WW acted crazy, really crazy after the exposure... but, that was not unexpected and I was prepared for it. There are many here saying that I should give up and walk away... but I see this as pretty much everything going to script.. and if it does not end well, then I know I did everything that I could.
Imagine how my kids will benefit when they are a little younger to know exactly what happened? I even have Dr Harley's show to play for them. My opinion is to keep fighting the fight until you have done everything you can.... you will never second guess your decision that way. Also.. this is a marathon over about 2 years.. it's nothing you can assess in a week.