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#2868330 10/24/15 09:20 PM
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I am about 1 month into Plan B and really struggling.

My WH is still in A, and it really feels like it's over even as I am holding out hope we can recover.

Pastor that married us says don't give up, keep trying that nothing is hopeless. I worry that just sets me up for more heartache and that I should be working on letting go and moving get on.

Please pray for us and that I can find some clarity to know what I should do.

Thank you!


Me: BW (45)
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DD #1 (EA, but said was over) 6.27.15
DD# 2 (ongoing PA) 9.11.15
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I have and will continue to pray.

You are trying. This is the best chance of saving the marriage. Has this pastor spoken to your husband?

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Originally Posted By: apples123
I have and will continue to pray.

You are trying. This is the best chance of saving the marriage. Has this pastor spoken to your husband?


Thank you!

No. The pastor has tried but WH has not taken the call or responded to email. WH left a message saying he will be in touch. That was a couple of weeks ago.

I am grateful for the support. Thank you!


Me: BW (45)
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DD #1 (EA, but said was over) 6.27.15
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God can change anyone's heart. I will be praying for your husband that God may do so. Try to let loose of the fears and take each day as it comes. A person once said the fears from anxiety is nothing more than false emotions appearing real. Hang in there and keep trying.

Father I ask for encourage for this spouse and I ask that you give wisdom to the husband to see his mistakes and the paths he needs to correct them. Father provide strength to all and bless them. In Jesus name, Amen.

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Amen.

Thank you.


Me: BW (45)
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I really need to move. But, I need a job first.

I am in the running for a job in the lower 48. It seems a great fit both in location and duties. I also have a few friends in the area which would make a solo relocation easier.

Frankly, while I want this job, and I am just praying that I find a new job. I was hoping a few extra prayers in that direction might help. I have got to get out of here.

Thank you


Me: BW (45)
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DD #1 (EA, but said was over) 6.27.15
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I am praying for you, noone!!


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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Originally Posted By: noone733
I really need to move. But, I need a job first.

I am in the running for a job in the lower 48. It seems a great fit both in location and duties. I also have a few friends in the area which would make a solo relocation easier.

Frankly, while I want this job, and I am just praying that I find a new job. I was hoping a few extra prayers in that direction might help. I have got to get out of here.

Thank you


Father we pray for the concerns listed above. Provide wise and courage to face the future ahead. Hear our prayers Oh Lord, and bless noone733 according to your will. In Jesus name, Amen

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Thank you!


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Thank you BH!


Me: BW (45)
WH: 47
Married: 1999
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DD #1 (EA, but said was over) 6.27.15
DD# 2 (ongoing PA) 9.11.15
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I heard today that the hiring official for that good job in MT is doing reference checks on me. I have great references!

Please keep those prayers coming, this might be the job that gets me out of here!

Thank you!


Me: BW (45)
WH: 47
Married: 1999
No kids, one wonderful dog
DD #1 (EA, but said was over) 6.27.15
DD# 2 (ongoing PA) 9.11.15
Plan B started 10.1.15
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Originally Posted By: noone733
I heard today that the hiring official for that good job in MT is doing reference checks on me. I have great references!

Please keep those prayers coming, this might be the job that gets me out of here!

Thank you!


hurray


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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Originally Posted By: noone733
I heard today that the hiring official for that good job in MT is doing reference checks on me. I have great references!

Please keep those prayers coming, this might be the job that gets me out of here!

Thank you!


hurray

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FWW/BW (me)
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Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.



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Found out today that the job in MT is down to me and one other person. I should know by Friday.

Please pray I get this so we can move soon! We are doing well and this would really help our recovery.

Thank you so much for everything you have done for me and all the prayers.

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Will be praying for you that God will's would be done in your life.

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Me too

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