I haven�t had but one AO and that was with our son since I told the one on the show thank GOD.
This was only since the show? "but one" sounds like minimizing it and justifying one too many. "thank GOD" seems to indicate quite a bit of relief on your part that you haven't had one since, leading us to believe you engage in AOs regularly.
Quit trying to make me angry with all these ugly texts.
So now it's her fault you are being made to be angry?
but when my turn come here go the argument a day or two before so she can use my anger problem against me. That�s another reason why it is so important to me to beat this anger issue its her get out of jail free card.
Sir, you are using YOUR poor behavior and anger outbursts against HER. Quite the amazing blame shifting you are doing here, also referred to as gaslighting.
And yes it is a "get out of jail free" card. We don't advise anyone to stay captivated in a marriage of anger. We do advise them to "get out of jail" immediately.
it looks like my wife is using it to keep arguments going.
The only argument you are in that keeps going is one that you keep going. As we have advised her, exit if necessary but don't argue. It's not her fault if you stay to argue, it's yours.
For example (in the past); appliance repair guy called my cell phone (my elderly parents had me helping with a repair). I forgot to bookmark the number as such and he saw the number. I then explained who it was and told him to call to confirm. Instead, he did the AO thing and took my phone and hid it until the next day.
Is your wife supposed to want to stay married to a man who AOs and punishes her? Would you want to?
Another time (in the past); at parents home the insurance guy was telling us the name of the previous female agent. The name stood out to me and so all excited I called and told him what the insurance guy said about his classmate. I was greeted with an AO stating why was I telling him what some guy said.
Would you want to be married to a person who treated you this way?
In fact, before starting MB, (last AO with me) I thought police would need involvement and called.
Your AOs sure are causing you a lot of problems. Worse, they are hurting your wife. If she stays in a marriage like this, her health will be destroyed. Is that what you want?
Another time he got angry and I would hear the room door close with him going in our lock box. The final day, he came and told me he was taking his portion out and wanted it separate.
Threatening the financial security of your wife is another way to punish her as part of your anger. Would you want to be treated this way?
What is very concerning Casper, is that you are having these outrageous, punishing anger outbursts and then either minimizing them or blaming your wife for them.
In reading the accounts of your anger, I can imagine you don't treat anyone in your life as terribly as you treat the person you promised to love above all others.
Worse, in your posts here, I see self justification and minimization of your anger. Intentional, punishing, angry behavior you are imposing on your wif3e that will destroy her health if you don't stop, or she doesn't separate from you.
