<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Damsel in Distress:<BR><B>Your post has touched me greatly! My husband and I are just starting our road of recovery. It has been only two weeks since I ended all contact with the other. And we are working on completing the MB program. </B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>DiD, do you mean 2 weeks since D-Day? I'd be interested in talking with you, as I am not too far behind you. I am struggling to end all contact with OW. The good folks here have bee a tremenous source of support this week. I'd like to know what another WS is feeling during the withdrawal period.

Wow! Great discoveries Unan! Thanks for sharing!<P>What struck me was the part where you said you have little love or respect for yourself... Sure, what you DID was horrible and shameful, but YOU are not horrible nor shameful. What we do is not who we ARE. You are a loving husband and father who values his family. Right?<P>You have repented and moved on. You are restored back to your wife & family. There is nothing disrespectful about that. In fact, it seems everyone here very much respects you for that.<P>It's so refreshing to read about a marriage that has mended. Seriously, thank you! I think you should give yourself a break because if we are to love others as we love ourselves but our love for ourselves is tainted...<P>God's not holding it against you, why should you? "As far as the east is from the west, so far has your sin been removed from you." (It's in Psalms, I believe?)<P>Don't beat yourself up, because there are plenty of people out in the world who would be happy to do that for you!! Take care of yourself! You're the only you that you've got! <P>The first rule of self-reflection is BE NICE & LOVE YOURSELF regardless, BS, WS, OP, OC, everyone, all!

What an amazing story. My wife had an affair, and never apologized, never said she was sorry, no remorse whatsoever. As she said, "Deal with it, and get over it," even after counseling, in which she heard repeatedly that her behavior was wrong.<P>My wife is beautiful, in appearance. My guess is that she is just so used to having men fall at her feet, that she is incapable of understanding my hurt. I really think I am just another guy to her. I just can't believe how quickly she has moved on. <P>Did you go through a period in which you felt no remorse?