My wife(ws) just called a few minutes ago to tell me she has a bladder infection and was going to be going to the hospital.<P>Now,for one thing...she never does the calling,I always call her.Secondly,she never complains about being sick,she just works right through it.<P>I told her I would love to take her or be with her but I cannot take 2 kids to an e.r and I have nobody to watch them at this short of a notice.She understood and was not upset.<P>Does this mean anything?She has been living with the om since may.

I hate to admit it, but my first response when reading this post is that you've LB'd, and perhaps a pretty major one.<P>IMO, your W was reaching out to you, and you turned her away.<P>Why can't you bring the kids with you to the E.R.? Is there any way you can still go there now?<P>Karen<BR>

I cannot go anywhere,She has the car.When she left,she took it with her leaving us stuck here.Even if I had a way to get there,I do not know where she is.

Forgot to mention,I cannot take the kids because...A my 6 year old daughter hates hospitals and would scream the entire time,my son would not be far behind and...I could not be with her with them anyway.

Owen:<P>You could still call your W on the phone while she's in the hospital, can't you? I would be on the phone EVERY other hour!! I would be asking her Drs. and she how it's going, I'd be PLANNING A'ing my butt off!!!<P>She has reached out to you, and she wanted YOU to be the one "there for her." WHile I understand why you can't be there in person, I think you could still gain by being there in emotional support.<P>When you say you "do not know where she is...." do you mean you don't know WHICH hospital? If not, I'd be ON THE PHONE finding OUT which hospital!! I'd bust my buns to find out, call her, BE THERE emotionally for her.....definitely. SHE REACHED OUT FOR YOU. She wants you to do this for her. Do it. It'll pay dividends in the end.<P>My .02<BR>Lupo

Actually,she called me.We had a little incident at home,my son kicked out 1 of my daughters teeth.She just went to an immediate care center.I told her I felt really bad that I was not there.She said it was ok..AND GET THIS,she told me she loved me from his house...found that interesting.

I will admit, that I'm not familiar with your story (although they all aren't too different are they?), but it does sound promising. <P>IMO, your W is coming out of the fog some. Reality is hitting her.<P>But don't get too carried away. Time, patience and consistency is still required before you'll have a better idea of what she wants. This could all still be part of the waffling for her (but the signs are good that she is leaning towards your side of the fence.. ).<P>Karen<BR>

Hi owen,<BR>To me you know what it sounded like? My first impression was that she needed you to pray for her. Did you guys pray? I too feel that she was reaching out, but since she knows you have the kids and no transportation, she sounded like she needed a prayer...<P>A bladder infection can come from anything, but wonder if OM has a hygeine problem????? YUCK! And of course, there can be NO SEX when she is in that kind of pain!! OUCH! Interesting how when she is in desperate pain and in need of emergency medical attention she calls YOU! The one who really cares about her well-being! Interesting!! I mean "interesting" in a good way. <P>Next thing, I totally understand your daughter's fears. My twins have had extensive medical intervention in their lives and my daughter has very small veins. Although she wouldn't react as fiercely as your daughter does, she would still be very concerned and perhaps wondering if we were at the hospital for her benefit, so my heart sympathizes with you there...<P>Lastly, I think you did all you could do in the circumstance by being there to simply talk to her. She obviously wanted to hear your voice and it sounds like it was enough to comfort her by her last comments. That's cool!<P>What does it all mean? I think it means that she KNOWS who she can count on to comfort her in a time of great and desperate need. I'm sure you are praying for your wife. Heck, I'm praying for you too, but it seems like in this case, she was really asking for some spiritual/moral support. Ya think???? Ya think??????? *I* think so....<P>

OH and I forgot to mention, our twins have both had teeth kicked out, knocked out, AND pulled out! Did you find the missing tooth? I think it was probably loose already--HOPEFULLY!--poor baby! I see your little ones play rough just like mine????<P>Collectively, ours have lost 10 teeth--HALF through the "knock-out" method!!!

Atually,we just found the tooth.It looks like it might of broken off but she lost 2 teeth over the summer so I am hoping it was somewhat loose/She seems fine this morning.<P>we did pray together when she was over a few days ago,we always do but this time I prayed for healing.Unfourantly I did not get the chance to do so with her yesterday while on the phone but if she calls to do I will make sure I do.<P>She tells me she loves me alot but it really suprised me that she did from his place.I have only called there once or twice and When I say it her reply is usually..I know or I do too,not the actual words.<P>As far as him having hygine probelems,I have no idea,never met the creep.But she did have a bladder infection back in january so mabey she is just cursed

Hi owen,<BR>Well, I'm glad that you found the tooth. Good thing that these are baby teeth!<P>I hope your wife gets over this infection and comes home to work things out soon. Hang in there buddy. It all still sounds good to me. You can see good signs and marked differences in her behavior, so let's celebrate the small victories! God blessed you!<P>p.s.She's not cursed! She's BLESSED to have YOU in her life! Have a great weekend enjoying your kids--minus one tooth!

Well,she called me again today from his place,talked to me for close to an hour.Once again she told me she loved me from there,I am pretty sure he was there too,from what I understand he works nights and I heard some noise in the background.<P>I told her I felt bad there is nothing I can really do other than pray for her and hope she gets to feeling better soon.She said she will try to come over sometime tomorrow but is not sure if she will be up to it or not,still in alot of pain.I told her not to push her self to hard..kids dont need to see her like this anyway imho.

Do you think she wants to come home but is afraid to come straight out and ask you?