O.K. I get it guys. We are staying apart, but it's back to Plan A for me. I know we need to be talking. It's just hard because I have zero trust at this point. He seems to be sincere. He sent me an e-mail from his sister's yesterday. It said "I love you SOOOOOOO much. Remember why we're doing this. It's all going to be o.k." That was encouraging. I will continue to try to be loving and nonjudgmental since he's giving me no reasons not to trust that this time it really is over with OW. Thanks everyone!<P>MOM

Sounds like we are in similar boats, huh? <P>I wouldn't necessarily say it's back to Plan A. I mean I wouldn't rush over and meet his needs for SF (unless you can do that w/o getting hurt), but I do think conversation, affection, admiration, or some of his other needs can get met during this "trial" time.<P>All I'm saying is to make sure you show him that his positive actions are GETTING him somewhere. Give him hope. It doesn't mean you jump right in, but it does mean you don't ignore him...<P>Good luck. This sounds very promising. I think I am a little farther along than you, but not much. I know what you mean about not trusting. I still keep thinking my H is going to hurt me again, but so far he hasn't actually DONE anything to warrant my mistrust THIS TIME. So far... I just have such a hard time believing in him. You too??<P> <BR>HbH

HBH,<BR>I hear you loud and clear. Actually my H seems to be one of few men in the world that ties his SF to his emotions, so that has not been an issue with us. I pray that the need for his SF will come in time, once we have a more intimate emotional relationship with each other again. He's already called me twice this a.m. I guess I figured I'd rather have him calling ME if he needs to talk, than her. <P>MOM