I am just afraid that she will call him again and stir up more feelings---I guess for the moment, i will remain silent!!<P>Thanks for everyones replies!<P>Krystal

Well, I emailed OW and told her there are three things in life you don't f--k with.<P>1. Someones husband<P>2. Someones children<P>3. someones money<P>Words of wisdow for a happier life.<P>She thought I was trying to scare her. ha ha<P>I did feel better. Of course she then called my H and told him I was harrassing her JOKE. I do think I can harrass better than this.<P>------------------<BR>(spoken aloud from the mind) mine

Faith n Him,<P>Now this is one topic I just can NOT leave alone.<P>My story goes back to D-Day-June 1, 1999. The parties involved were my H and my best friend. <P>I did contact the OW. First time was just days after D-Day to let her have it. We wrote nasties back and forth for a couple of weeks. Then there were weeks of her H and I talking. Then finally silence mostly. Until her H came here to MB and I let him know I was here (not rudely jsut to warn him). From that time on her H would read my posts and write terrible hurtful things to me. He felt I was hurting his wife by my feelings of hurt for what she had done.<P>Then in October 2000 the OW contacted me. I was glad to get a chance to talk to her again. I had really liked her and I had the best times with her. We kind of skated around the affair and tried to pick up our friendship again. Sadly it was not meant to be. Her H had many many hard feelings towards not only my H but myself I guess. He didn't like her communicating with me and that made me feel angry as I am innocent in all this mess.<BR>Basically nothing good came out of the contact. She did apologize numerous times but always maintained how it was more my H's fault than hers.<BR>It is my opinion that once this happens you can tlak all you want but it is doubtful any of us ever gets the full truth. Also-as many have said here-the OW doesn't give a rat's [censored] about you and the kids. I am sorry but my friend knew all of us very well. We did everything together-and she knew my kids like she knows her own.<BR>If she has a conscience at all she will not have to hear from you to better her lifestyle.<BR>Don't do it-it will bring you more heartache-I am certain <P>Hugs to you-<P><P>------------------<BR>*heartache*<P>"Life's A Dance<BR>You Learn As You Go.<BR>Sometimes You Lead<BR>Sometimes You Follow!<BR>Don't worry 'Bout What You Don't Know<BR>LIfe's A Dance <BR>You Learn As You Go."

Heartache---<P>How awful---your best friend?? At least I didn't know the OP, and I don't know her good qualities--all I want to know is the bad for my own sanity! Know what I mean??<P>Hope everything is well now!<P>Krystal

Still love him---<P>I would love to say everything you said, but haven't and probably won't!!!<P>OW knows how much H loves children---then why break their hearts???<P>Well said!! lol<BR>Krystal

Faith n Him,<P>All is as well as can be expected. H and I ahve stayed together the entire time-other than the one night I kicked him out. He is beyond sorry, beyond remorseful, beyond embarrassed.<P>The problems now are myself. I still can't cope with it. I loved them both-and they both hurt me. I had no where to turn because the two people I would have run to did the damage.<P>I have been on and off Paxil for over a year now and just started Prozac a couple days ago. Now I am angry that I have to use medication to stay sane.<P>------------------<BR>*heartache*<P>"Life's A Dance<BR>You Learn As You Go.<BR>Sometimes You Lead<BR>Sometimes You Follow!<BR>Don't worry 'Bout What You Don't Know<BR>LIfe's A Dance <BR>You Learn As You Go."<p>[This message has been edited by heartache (edited September 24, 2001).]

I tried medications awhile back, but did NOT stay on them---I might have to in the near future, but not yet.<P>I am so sorry that your bestfriend would do this to you! I have some friends that listened to me hours and hours about this, and I know I would NOT be here without them!<P>((((hugs))))) to you!<P>Krystal