When I read your post saying that he didn't WANT it to work, I got really scared... but it sounds like he was just having a bad day and tossed those words out there to get you to leave him alone?<P>Sheesh! Them thar are some serious words to be throwing out when you really don't mean them... <P>Your H obviously doesn't realize the impact of his words on the circumstances, on you, on his kids... Words are soooo important. But then on the other hand, everybody tends to say stuff without thinking when upset, so you have to give him that. BTW, did he apologize for saying that?<P>Does he ever apologize for hurting you with his words? Just wondering.<P>The reason why I ask is because in my home, I'm the one who would tend to lash out with words before my spouse would. He told me one time that it might as well be as if I physically hit him. He REALLY gets hurt by my angry words and I have learned to be very careful.<P>If you think about it, it's so true. If prayer could change things, and I believe it can, then how important are our words whether negative or positive? I mean what is prayer? MERE WORDS!<P>The words I'm speaking of are the kinds of words that hold God to His promises set forth in His Word, not just any words.<P>Okay, anyways, I'm just glad things are working out better for you guys. I hope the parenting classes are going all right. <P>I still think he should apologize. You cannot be expected to just ignore remarks like that?????????? Can you????????