Indy,
You didn't drive us away. We're tougher than that!!! Believe me! You have to run me off with a pretty big stick to get rid of me! [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] <p>I'm here this weekend too. You wanna talk some more? Keep typing buddy.<p>I'm so sorry your W says such hurtful things to you. i know that all you want is to make her happy, and she (selfishly) returns your undying love and dedication with criticism and hatred. You don't deserve to be treated that way.<p>We're here for ya buddy. Not many of us on the weekends here you know.... but a few of us.<p>[ October 27, 2001: Message edited by: Faith1 ]</p>

Faith,<p> Thanks for the reply. She didn't say those things to me. She said them to one of her friends. That friend told me. I just really think that it would be easier to leave. I am really tempted to tell my WS not to bring the kids back or that she can talk to my dad about the kids. The board does seem to get slow on the weekends.<p>Indy

Hi, Indy!<p>Oh... a friends told you she said that stuff. I'm still sorry. That stuff really hurts.<p>Did you carve pumpkins this afternoon? How did that go? Are the kids with you now?<p>I was trying to search back.... how old are your kids?

Faith,<p> My kids are 8, 6, and 4. No, I didn't get to carve pumkins with the kids. I took them over to my sister's house and dropped them off. Last Sunday my mother called my sister and her husband over to try and talk me out of leaving. My sister told me that she sould now understand why my WS left me and she doesn't blame her now. I just can't step foot in their house. First of all there are to many memories there and for what happened last week. So, my kids are over there with my parents and they are carving pumkins as we speak. I am at the office right now. It is just down the road from them. So, I will leave here in about 30 to 40 mins to pick them up.<p>Indy

8,6, and 4. sweet ages [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]
I'm sorry you didn't get to carve with them. I love carving pumpkins. I have one on my front porch, but I dunno if I'll carve it or not. no kids, and now no H. [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img] But I may carve it anyway [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] . I'm sorta silly like that, I guess. I've always carved pumpkins and dyed easter eggs... hehe... even with no kids. [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>How long have you been married?
What kind of work do you do? <p>(hehe... sorry for the questions.. guess I'm bored too.. [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] was glad to see someone posting... plus I'm just trying to understand your situation a little better)<p>And, what did your sister mean by saying she can see why your W left you?

ok, I see 7 years... on Sept 14, right? That's my b'day. hmmmm.... <p>ok, I'm still reading to get to know you better.<p>Keep talking [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]

Faith,<p> I am a U. S. Marine. I have been on active duty for crazy enough 7 years. I found out that I was going to be a dad in Recruit Training. You know what is funny. They trained me to be able to surive war and I can't understand why I can't this. I try to be strong and start using my training to get me through this, but it is almost like I short curcuit. My mind doesn't understand. <p> My sister knows that I am a stuborn person. I will try to fix something and not ask for help until the last minute. She said that my WS was frustrated with me and that is why is understands.<p>Indy

hehe... yep. you marines. [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] I laugh because.. I dunno if you've followed Husband2you's story at all. He was a Marine for 6 years.. (he's not now). And he, of course, is a BS as well. He's out of town, and away from a computer, so I talk with him pretty often to help him stay on track with MB and his Plan A. He's having a very difficult time with his WS W. He deals with many of the same emotions you are. His situation is a bit different right now, but I'm jsut relating your emotions and attitiudes with his. he believes in "fighting til the end", ya know? A Marine thing I guess, right? andyou talk about survival and such.. I guess the difference here is we're dealing with marraige and people... not war. I dunno....<p>So you work in an office, and you're thinking of getting back out "there" to do something else. H2Y was thinking of re-enlisting... it didn't work out - too late.<p>My 8th anniversary would be this Dec 29. just a side note. DOn't know if we'l make it til then. depends on how long the D takes. [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img]

Faith,<p> I didn't know that H2Y was a Marine. I think that the thing that would get me through anything was because I knew that no matter what I had a family waiting on me at home. I just never imagined that this would happen. I don't know either. But, on the side note. Where are you located at? It is pretty clear where I am from. Indiana if you couldn't guess.<p>Indy

yep. he was. verrrrry stubborn too. hehe. <p>he's deep into Plan A and his w wants a divorce, so his love bank is draining... he's beginning to see that he might be able to survivve without her.<p>I'm in Alabama (near Birmingham). Yep... figured you were in Indiana [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] hehe.

Faith,<p> His story sounds alittle like mine. It seems to me that my WS is happy now. Although I couldn't have seen her leave her kids like she has. I was thinking in the beginning that she just wanted to erase her mistake of marrying me and having children. She most likely just wants the OM and my stepdaughter to be with her. I just miss the woman that I love. I miss holding her everynight. It really hurts that she is allowing someone else to do that. I know that I could nor would I ever let someone else touch me. The thought of it really bothers me. I know that I will be alone the rest of my life. Because I could never allow another woman to sleep in my bed. I would see my WS and that wouldn't be fair to her or myself. I also could never bring someone else into my children's lives unlike my WS has. <p> I saw that you have been married for seven years. Did you decide not to have children?<p>Indy<p>[ October 27, 2001: Message edited by: INDY_357 ]</p>

Faith,<p> I forgot to add that my WS wants me to see other people. That some girl is going to sweep me off of my feet. I told her that it already happened and that that woman was her. I love her so much. I love her enough that I want to see her happy. I just wish that she was happy with me again. <p>Indy

sigh... well, we waited for a few years - just to be a couple together - and to also get ourselves straight financially. then we seemed to have a little trouble getting pregnant, then he had cancer for 2 years. Then, just as he is healthy again, and we are trying again, he has his A. so, no kids.<p>I know what you mean about missing your W. I miss the man I married terribly. He is not the same man anymore. The things he says seems to erase the whole 11 years we were together. But I disagree with you terribly about someone else coming into my life. I don't want to be alone. I want someone to grow old with, someone to love me, to have kids with, come home to at nite, laugh with, cry with, etc etc etc. I want all those things. And I can see myself with someone else. I think you will get to that point as well. DOn't let that scare you. DOn't rush it. It may be a while til you can see it. H2Y, again, is like you in that. Marine thing again??? I dunno.... do they train you like that?? hehe... he can't see himself with anyone else ever again. <p>Do you need to go get your kids? I'll be online tonite. as I'm sure some others may be joining us later.

Faith,<p> Yes, I need to go get my kids. My internet connection is down at home. I am going to get the kids and take them home. Once I get them in bed I am going to come back here so I can post more. I will explain why I feel that way about someone else later tonight. I will try and get back here at 10:30 or so. I will talk to you later tonight. Please tell me if that is to late for you.<p>Indy<p>[ October 27, 2001: Message edited by: INDY_357 ]</p>

that's fine. I'll be here. is that central time?

Yes that is Central Time. I forgot about the east coast thing. I was at Camp Lejeune in NC for two years. I forgot about the time difference. I will talk to you later. Thanks Faith.<p>Indy

Indy,<p>You are not chasing anyone here away. Sometimes we just have to get tough with each other so shake us out of the pits of depression. <p>Z

Hello everyone I am back.<p>Indy

welcome back. [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] got the kids all tucked in?<p>there's a few of us around I think.

Yes, they are tucked in. I am at my parent's house. My mom got her inernet connection fixed. So, that saved me from having to go to my office. I saw that Z was on alittle while ago. Let me go get something out of the car. I will be back in a few. <p>Indy