Between being depressed and realizing that the OP was tiny and petite, I have lost allot of weight. (80 pounds so far since April) I feel so much better and want to loose another 40. The problem I have is now I have skin that is loose and hangs and is very ugly. Does anyone have advice on something that can be done?<P>When we filled out the EM questionnaires, he didn't put physical appearance as being important to him at all. I am totally shocked since I was 100+ pounds overweight!<P>Thanks,<BR>Le

I have lost about 40 lbs since DDay July 2001. Someone here called it the infidelity diet.lol <P><BR>Maybe some exercise. Or I have heard of people having the skin removed.<P>Good luck.<P>M

Hi MF,<P>Yes, it's been dubbed the "IWLP" (Infidelity Weight Loss Program).<P>I too lost several lbs, and almost everyone on this board who has gone thru this has experienced the same.<P>Take care of yourself and eat healthy foods when you do have an appetite, but most importantly drink lots of fluids. <P>As far as the skin thing, I would say exercise might help. <P>God Bless,<BR>Jo

Lost 15 lbs. then put it back on... in the form of MUSCLE! hehehe. The one good thing I can honestly say came from this mess

Lost 30 pounds. I am familiar with diet plan. It consists of "my world is falling apart, who cares about food, work, anything".<P>Maybe my wife nicked my stomach a little while ripping my heart from my chest.

You bet! I have lost 25 pounds. And I have at least 25 more to go. I had started an exercise program about 2 weeks before dDay and was sort of trying to eat better. After dDay my stomach rejected food for almost a week - a jump start to a diet! The face-saver is that I had started the exercise before the Dday so WS knows that I didn't do it "just to get WS back." I'm really grateful. Read a book by Joyce Vedral if you like - she talks about certain exercises to put larger muscles under certain droopy skin areas - like above knees.

If it is available in your area try doing water aerobics. The water excercise program works wonders!<P>Sadly for me, I lost then gained weight. I think it is maybe becasue of the meds I was taking but not sure-it hasn't fallen off yet.<BR>Congratulations on the weight loss [img]images/icons/shocked.gif" border="0[/img]

40 lbs. on the Infidelity Diet. Now I want to lose maybe ten more. <P>I've always heard that with significant weight loss, like 50 lbs and up,the best way to deal with the skin problem is surgery. I sure would consider it, esp if you're trying to lose even more. But wait until you're down to your desired weight.<P>Snow

I lost 15 pounds after discovering wife's affair and I wasn't overweight to start with. After a few months gained my weight back. Now am over by 5 or 10 pounds but still reasonable weight. Affairs are great for weight loss plans.

I went from 204 lbs down to 171 lbs in about 3 months. Now I'm back in the 180's and I feel good. My W lost about 15 also, but that could be to look better for OM (..just the cynic in me!!!).<P>sad dad

YES....it's been 10 weeks since D-Day and i am down about 40lbs. You simply can't eat, work, sleep...do anything normal. I am sure it's the same for most WS. <P>I do look better...even WS has commented how nice i look now. Would like to lose another 20 and then maintain...but would gladly put it all back on to get WS from the fog !!! <P>Sad Daddy [img]images/icons/tongue.gif" border="0[/img]

Thanks everyone! I have started lifting weights but haven't seen much results yet. I've been doing it for about 8 weeks. I have gained muscle, but my skin doesn't seem to be tightening any. I have the idea of surgery, but it sounds like it may be that only option. Maybe I'll get the b**bs done at the same time! If he decides to leave again, at least I'll be looking hot for someone else! NOW-NOW that wasn't nice was it! I am just ready for the fog to lift! SOON!<P>Thanks again,<BR>Le

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Sad Daddy:<BR><STRONG> I am sure it's the same for most WS. <BR></STRONG><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>I lost 20 lb in 4 weeks and continue lossing weight however I disagree on your assumption on WS. My W gains weight even she tries to loose weight !. Does your WS loose weight ?.

I lost 25lbs in 2 months, still losing [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img] pretty soon I'll be skin and bones. W hasn't lost any...I don't think.<P>Oops, this is actually SEM....sorry KS, I gotta get used to this new forum...I keep forgetting you have to log off and back on. [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]<p>[ October 15, 2001: Message edited by: Keep Smiling ]

Well W and I aren't divorced yet, but the supposive separation has helped me lose 40 pounds in 3 months.

Moving Forward,<P>I have lost about 30 lbs in the last two months. That becomes expensive after a while. Hehehe! I went from a 36 to 32 in the waist. Where I work, I have access to a gym 24/7 so I have kept myself in pretty good shape. Been trying to lose my gut for months and after D-day I got my wish! Guess you better watch out what you wish for! You just might get it!<P>On the skin thing, I have a friend that had surgery to lose weight. He was 150 lbs overweight and was explained by his Dr. that skin is elastic and will expand and contract. <BR>He gave him a exercise program after the surgery and his loose skin is to a minimum.<BR>He has lost 120 lbs and very little lose skin except for a little in his belly.....<P><BR>RN

25 pounds in the 1st month and 25 more over the next seversl. Have kept it off since April!! I needed to lose but would prefer a different way next time

I've lost 22 pounds in 2.5 months. I joined ' "Curves for Women" to help me a month before everything came to a head and H told me either I lose weight or he'd divorce me. Little did I know the PA had already started. When A became apparent I think the Infidelity Weight Loss program worked. Now I am thinking I want to lose it for my own self and I'm also thinking that I will probably never be what H wants anyway. I fear I won't be able to live up to his expectations no matter what I do. He has been supportive in me losing the weights, says he wants to save the marriage and have it work, etc....but still maintains contact with OW, thus giving me mixed feelings. I suspect that my love bank will be drained by the time this is all done and it won't matter by then.<BR> OW is petite and tiny. OW is a lawyer. OW is deeply in love with him, OW can converse on matters of the universe, etc. etc, etc..........me? I'm chopped liver. I think the only thing I've provided him with is three fabulous children who play a huge role in this entire saga.<BR>Mikkey

Hi Momof42 .... you sound like me, I dropped 30 lbs in the first month and then kept losing.<P>Hey, BTW ... are you really Mom of 42 kids [img]images/icons/shocked.gif" border="0[/img] ... J/K, but it can be construed that way. lol [img]images/icons/rolleyes.gif" border="0[/img] <P>Jo

17lbs in 3 months. Probably will put it back on if I ever get to feeling better about everything, don't know if that will ever happen though...hope not, kinda like my new weight. (I weigh less than the OW now...that's kinda a plus [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]