INTHECLOUDS320,<p> Yes, all of the above scares the heck out of me. Yes, she wants her cake and to eat it too. Why else would she tell me she wants a D, then want to spend the night? Everytime I start to distance myself and show her that I am about ready to move on, she turns on the charm, cries her eys out, makes love to me(guess I enable her to continue huh?), or whatever she has to do to make me believe she wants to work on the M. Yes she knows my buttons. And she seems to push them when she wants to be totally by herself for a block of time. She doesn't have to do that, because we are seperated. Sigh!!!<p> WAT,<p> Of course I knew you were going to say that....lol. And I know you are right on the money. How long did it take you to pull the trigger, as you say?<p> KS,<p> Thanks Sherry. Nope we aren't going to take that trip. I was ready Friday morning, she kept making excuses why she was not ready to go. I never lost my cool with her. Then, Friday night is when she dropped the bomb on me....lol. I remained calm throughout the whole conversation. Told her ok, I was ready to get the divorce if she was. I feel that when she realized I was ready to let go is when she changed her tune. That is when she asked to stay the night with me, cried like a baby until I agreed. No SF though, I just couldn't after she said she wanted a D. <p> Thanks ConfusedMom,<p> Well, if she thought a quickie was going to make me feel better, or her, she did not succeed.(at least not Friday night [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img] )<p> Thank you NPIG,<p> Yeah I get all the blame for everything. She is just following the script on that. Hehe, sounds like your Son is one very bright young man. One of these days you will have to let H in on that little secret....not that doing that will make a difference, but it should be fun to watch his expression when he realized the truth of it....<p> Thank you all so much. I actually don't know what I am going to do just yet. Leaning towards Plan B, but won't rush into it while I am confused/foggy/unsure/or whatever else it is called. It seems like I have been doing this forever. Much like a yo-yo. Yep the coaster...lol<p> jd
