Well... my H and I married six weeks after a blind date, we'd never lived alone, he was 20 and I had just turned 21, we both still lived at home with mommy and daddy. I'd had experience, he hadn't. We've never been alone, never apart, even when he moved out for awhile earlier this year he spent more time with me than away. I'd say we've never spent more than 2 nights in a row away from each other, and that was this year. Never before!!<P>------------------<BR>~Sheryl<P>Marriage: the most important contract you'll ever enter into, and the most sacred.<P><BR>

Connor,<BR> I'm alittle unsure how to talk this way. I just posted A responce to your post for me. I need the dialog right now and am a little impacient. Sorry Please bear with me. <BR> Thanks, <BR><P>------------------<BR>BB

I am 42 and H just turned 33 about 5 days before discovery. He isn't old enough to be going through mid-life crisis. But he damn sure is putting me there.<P>We knew each other for about a week before we knew it was for us, but didn't get married for another year. Our anniversary was Oct. 13 of this year. He was with her. That sucks big time.<P>We have been through a lot in the past 6 years. Daughter born with cleft lip and palate, has had 3 surgeries, H injured his back, had to have surgery (4th one), car accidents, job changes, moved to Las Vegas from Tucson (big mistake!!!! moved to Sin City and look what happened.) But with all of these things going on, I still don't think that any are excuses for him to pull this crap.<P>I am not sure about this mid-life crisis thing... or the 7 year itch thing.... but I do know that this affair crap is miserable.<P>God Bless you and yours,<P>Sheryl W.

mitme, so sorry for that, I don't understand the mindset and I was even there once.<P>I guess the immature "mature" person becomes involved with this type of situation to recapture lost youth, but there are so many other constructive ways to feel young!

I met my H right after I graduated from college - but he had been out of college for several years, had already been married briefly. He was 30 before we married. I don't think he missed out on his youth.<P>Everyone gave him a hard time about midlife crisis when he gave up his career about 6 years ago to go into business for himself. But apparently he gets 2 midlife crises - when is it my turn?

Nellie, I think you're time is due right about now. Maybe not the mid-life crises, but a good vacation? You sure deserve it..<P>I was 22 when married, H was 24, and I had never lived on my own. Lived a very sheltered life with my parents who never allowed me to attend a rock concert until I was 17 :-) I think they even had a babysitter when I was 12, sheesh was that embarrassing. Not that there are excuses for these ridiculous mid life crises's, just some background. It's interestng what Dazed brought up. <P>[This message has been edited by Connor (edited November 15, 1999).]<p>[This message has been edited by Connor (edited November 15, 1999).]

FIrst Mitme,I want to say that midlife crisis can hit any time after 30. So he could be in it. I was 21 when we got married still in college. He was almost 23. We both went from hhome to college to marriage. His sister asked me if I thought part of the problem was that he had never really dated till we met. I don't know I guess he felt like he missed something. I know when I was having problem I felt like I missed something in getting married, but I decided that I wouldn't have missed my two kids for anything, and since they are part of him i wouldn't have really done anything different.<BR>Nellie you don't want to have a midlife crisis. Even if you don't go off the deep end like our Hs, they still s***k. I was very depressed. I guess I was still in mine when he started his and I wasn't far enough out of it to help him. Ofcourse I never ever thought he would do something like this!!!!!!!<P>------------------<BR>di<P>