You guys aren't "softies"" are ya? Thanks for all the info. I will be posting a new topic tonight, so be on the look out. Hopefully you'll see that I am trying. I would like to take this oppurtunity to say something to sad_forever.....I am sorry for what your H is doing to you. I will say this on his behalf, because he obviously isn't just yet. I remember seeing the incredible pain and "heart trauma" that I caused my wife when I answered yes to her question, "did you sleep with her". I will never, as long as I live, forget that. I really hope you are not sad forever, I hope that you get a chance to read this response, take care. <P>------------------<BR>We stumble and fall sometimes, and that hurts. But it is the most incredible realization when you look and see that it was your spouse that picked you back up......<P>Take care of and Love each other.....Arik<P><BR>

Another quick reply after realizing there were two pages. Thank you very much for your response Paul. I respect that you gave me the advice that you did. I am trying to do what is right for my wife. I hope things work out for you and I really look forward to your next response on my next topic. To Mater...Thank you for that perspective, all of you guys are awesome!! I am having a tough time with all of this and with the fact that I am losing a love. I know the love was wrong in it's timing and place and the fact that I am already committed. But, it is a lost love. I am working very hard and beginning to see my wifes perspective a little more clearly. Each day is a new one and a new chance to be there for her. <P>------------------<BR>We stumble and fall sometimes, and that hurts. But it is the most incredible realization when you look and see that it was your spouse that picked you back up......<P>Take care of and Love each other.....Arik<P><BR>