Paul, <BR>I think Plan B is extremely difficult when you have kids. MY w basiclly refused to contact someone else to make arrangements to see the kids. She would just show up and hang out. I ended up lovebusting by changing the garage door opener code and asking for the house keys. I pointed out that while she still owned part of the house, it was no longer her home.<P>I also made a big deal about her andthe om being around the kids as I felt this was morally wrong. But this led her to hanging out at the house.<P>She told me later that us fighting over the kids upset om and thats why he went back to his wife. It was also at the same time my w threatened to take kids away from me and I think he started to realize that he wasn't getting a single woman.

Paul,<P>I think RWD is right!<P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>I think Plan B is extremely difficult when you have kids... <BR>I also made a big deal about her and the om being around the kids as I felt this was <B>morally wrong...</B> <BR>She told me later that us fighting over the kids upset om and thats why he went back to his wife. It was also at the same time my w threatened to take kids away from me and I think he started to realize that he(OM) wasn't getting a single woman.<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>I think... hope... and pray these things will work for both you and RWD (maybe me when I go Plan B!)<P>However... don't be angry with her and om being around kids... (if you go the separation route... or divorce route... let the attorneys take the brunt of the "blame" if you can get OM away from kids!)<P>I too already sense that my W's OM knows that he'll be dealing with me (with all his unpleasantries) for a long time... and if he decides to bring his kids into my presence again... he will expect even worse!<P>Hang in there Paul...RWD... and all the rest of the Plan B-ers (and Plan A/Plan B-ers too!)<P>In Plan B the only good contact is <B>NO CONTACT</B>!<P>Strength to everyone... <P>Jim