I would know you women anywhere on the street because you must have beautiful halos! I'm serious! To do what you do and still cope is beyond me. You have to be saints to not tear someone apart!
Calls to your H in your home? And you actually can leave the room or just stand there? That phone would be so far up his A-- even a protologist couldn't remove it!
How cruel of these men!
Misia, half that money is yours! And you make darn sure you get it!
You think he's planning on moving to Ga? But you said nothing about taking you and child with him.
Misia, you said deposits to his savings acct? how about joint savings? your name not on the savings? I don't now about where you live, but here I could walk in,have that acct frozen and the only way they'll give any money out is with both present and hand me half! Go talk to bank today! And if you can do that, do it!
Then have your own acct. where you can deposit it elsewhere that he doesn't know about.
I'm with MIL. I might just kick him out after getting the money. You will need it for your security.
God bless, LouLou

ladylou,

Thanks for your souport. Love makes us do dumb things. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> I'm hoping h will see grass isn't always greener.Your postings make me laugh <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> .Thanks, I feel more pain than anger. H makes my kids happy he's a very good dad. Thats one of the reasons I love him. Therapist wonders when I will tire of being a door mat.(his words) Where are you from. I from us/Pa. H made a appointment for us to go to marriage cousling. But has not stoped seeing OW <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> It's good to know someone cares. Thanks for posting.

Kathy

thanks Kathy, and Misia. I will try again as I have typed this twice to be kicked off AOL!
Glad I could give you some humor, but I really would place that phone and a funny place. LOL
Believe me when I say God will honor your commitment in a way you never imagined.
You both are trying really hard and keeping your covenant in a situation that would try saints.
kathy, when he tells you how great the sex is, Take it with a grain of salt. I've read surveys of cheating men and most say the sex at home is always better. The only thing making it seem so great with OW is it's new. Now don't we all remember that tingly feelings of newness? Sure. But the end result is not as good, because they truly don't have the type of commitment that makes it so great between h and w.
There is a difference in sex and making love. My own FWH told me it was so much better between us because the love was there and commitment. Even though he'd thought he was in love with OW. The sex wasn't great with her.
Don't ask me why, but they still love to hurt us and dig at the scabs.
Stupid men is all I can say. In the end, if you pray and are a believer in Christ, his little fantasies are going to burst big time.
I just believe strongly in God's justice. And adulterous relationships do not have God's blessing.
whatever happens, you ladies will wind up being blessed in future. whether it be with the repentant S or a new life.
Hang on and keep faith. We have come to good times here from pure hell! And I have to say honestly, it only came when I put it all to God and said I can't handle it anymore. Here it is and I dont' want it back!
God bless you all, LouLou

<small>[ February 16, 2003, 12:55 AM: Message edited by: Misia111 ]</small>

Misia, guess what I told my FWH once?
I told him he should go live with OW and I'd be the OW because they seem to get better treatment!
Let her have the day to day duties and I'll be the shack up gal who gets the bonuses of weekends away, romance and no responsibilities other than sleeping with him and having fun!
I even told him to marry her. LOL Put him in total shock! Those dozen read roses would have been around his neck if I'd been there. And to think he actually made threats to you if you didnt' leave?
Honey, that's enough.
I could be wrong here, but I know exactly what I would have done. Waited for her to arrive and then told her she better get back on the next plane for her own safety!
And he could go with her! He's giving you ultimatums that you have to comply or he'll what?
When will WS's get it that they've already left with what they're doing?
He doesn't need time to break this off if he wants to save his marriage. He just has to stand up and say, it's over! Do not call, write or come here.
He sure doesn't mind hurting you to your face. And these Bit---- should be let down easy? LOL
She'd be down easy alright at the end of my fist! And him too.
I think you should tell him it's the other way around. That if he can't dump her and now, he is the one who is not going to be around.
Telling you it's over now if you don't leave? Pulezzzeeeeeeeee. I'm sorry for your pain.
I just know I would have told him if he didn't leave with me then it was already over.
This is pushing it in your face and he's taking full control. The OW deserves to be hurt, not you!
Take a stand with him and get it over with.
LouLou