HELP! I think I just totally screwed up.

I forwarded an email to my WW(and ILs)with some photos of my friends new baby. Attached below was some correspondence where I told him about the A.

How bad does this sound.

Congratulations on becoming a parent. The mustache is great. If I didn't know you, you would scare the hell out of me with that thing.
Things are not going well between me and WW. She cheated on me last summer with one of my best freinds and now she is having an affair with her ex-boyfriend. We are not living together right now. I hope we can get through things, but she is so messed up in the head right now. Sorry to drop the bomb on you, but seeing how you asked, I thought you should know.
There is no snow here. Got any there? What are you doing for work right now? I graduated again with an Computer Information Systems degree. Things have been so screwed up that I have not been looking for a job.

It's the part about being screwed up in the head that I am worried about. What do you think? Will this be the straw that breaks the camels back????!!!! I am not worried about the ILs reactions. They know everything already. Still, I feel like a total idiot.

-Luki

I sent my WW another email concerning our R and some misc. issues, before I realized my screw-up in the other email. She replied but not to the R questions I posed. I wrote her back about the misc and got another reply. That was somewhat of a relief. I am waiting for her to blow about the unintentional email. Maybe I made a big deal about nothing, but somehow I think it will be used against me.

-Luki

Luki:

It will or it won't. Nothing you can do about it one way or the other.

Look, you were being honest about how you're doing and feeling. It's hard to keep a M that's on the rocks a secret for long. You shouldn't feel like you have to.

As for the "screwed up in the haid" comment. Well, ooops, I guess. But that is ALSO how you feel. Sure, it's a DJ, but not as bad as many.

Take care,
-Qfwfq

m_t_d,

Yeah, your right about Plan B. I really have nothing to lose now by going ahaed with it. Sorry to hear that things are not going well. Hang in there. I will try catch up on your posts.

Qfwfq,

I don't feel as bad as I did after reading your post. It's a LB but,hey, there are worse things I could have said, right?. It's a real pain in the rear keeping the fact that my M is imploding. Some people know, other's don't. I'm going to slip one of these days and tell someone that doesn't need to know.

I feel like there is a stigma attached to it. Especially since I am guy and I think we get the blame more times than not. Who would want to date a divorced guy? I feel like "Ross" from the TV show "Friends". <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

I'll stop here before I start to ramble. Out.

-Luki

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Luki:
<strong>I feel like "Ross" from the TV show "Friends". <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />
</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">My friends have already said that about me. They say it is a joke, but it still hurts.

Regarding the email, what is done is done, you can't change the past. If she throws it in your face just tell her you were being honest.

Hang in there

STTSI

Are you sure that e-mail was an accident? are you sure in the back of your head you didn't want her to see it ? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Ok I will stop , just seems that you would be more careful then that . ( ok so I did not stop there) LOL

Anyway I agree, it is honest so whats wrong with honesty .
And "ROSS" is a very cool guy , some bad luck is all .
Good looking , stable job, own place any women with a brain would see past his D . And if she don't she does not have a brain so why would he want to get with a women like that .

So PLAN B letter out yet? and are you totaly ready ?

I know sometimes it just feels like enough is enough . What ever will be will be .

PS - look I am getting better only 1 post at a time LOL

3,

It was an accident. But on some level you are correct. I could have been more careful but I guess I don't care to be, hence the screw up. Oh well. I care much less about it today than yesterday.

Plan B letter is not out. I have to decide if I want to file taxes jointly or file separately. I am going to look in to that and probably post a question here.

-Luki

P.S. Only one post; I’m disappointed <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Luki-

Freudian Slip? Good for you.....

I was just reviewing your post. CoffeGuy did a write up recently Don't Ask if your in love.

Perhaps you might want to share this with your WW. Yes it would be educating her, but maybe something in this will reach her in the FOG that she is in.

My heart goes out to you.

Luki -
If it's taxes and money you are concerned about, your preparer should be able to figure out which will be the best for you. Most often, filing jointly is best. If it's just a moral thing, then it doesn't really matter how you would file.... Glad you're back!
DB

kily,

I read that post and thought about forwarding it to my W. I might as well; I have nothing to lose. Thanks for the suggestion and for thinking of me.

DB,

the main reason I want to file separately is to avoid the the verbal abuse I am sure to get from my WW and to avoid a squabble over the likely refund check. So what I give Uncle Sam a little more dough? It might also sends a signal that I am standing on my own two feet.

-Luki