Jen,

I'm with Q...what happened with Plan B?

It was a really good letter...did you decide against it?

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What happened with Plan B? I put it off I guess. I thought that maybe the desperation with which my H was contacting me might have meant he really wanted to work on things. I got back into the rut of wishing we could work things out for a few days there. Stupid me. He hasn't changed. Will I ever wake up and smell the coffee? I guess I have to choose to suck it up and take some action finally.

That Plan B letter is still ready and waiting. I am struggling somewhat with the fact that I'm not supposed to include any remarks that accuse him of anything. I'd like to point out that he was not willing to treat me with enough respect that I'd want to be with him, but it would appear that I can't pull that off without making a "disrespectful judgement".

I think I'll give him (well, drop off) the letter this weekend. I don't want to do it during the week b/c I KNOW he'll likely begin harassing me with phonecalls and showing up at my place, and I can't handle that during the work week. I know, I won't be answering his calls or the door, but just having to listen to him ringing the phone or buzzing at my apt is stressful enough. Maybe I'm a big baby, but I'm procrastinating until the weekend.

Jen

Jen:

Why not unplug the phone after a certain time each night?

-Qfwfq

Yeah, I know, I should do that Q. Right now I take my call cordless call display phone to bed with me, so that I don't have to talk to him if he calls. I have a friend who's been going through a break-up, and she's got permission to call day or night, so that's why I don't unplug it. I'm too nice sometimes I know, but she's been there for me throughout this mess.

Actually, yesterday I sat down and started making a log of his phonecalls. Once plan B starts, and I've officially told him (well, asked him) to leave me alone, I figure I may need to record his attempts to contact me in case I need to take any legal action.

Jen