Dear Queen, I am not sure if you want my advice since I have absolutely no experience in threesomes, but I can tell you what I am reading in your posts. So, I'll shoot straight from the hip, OK?

By the way, as far as I am concerned, what you do and how many people you have in your relationship is your business and your choice OK?

I see a person who has tried to say to her husband "No, not right now, I'm not comfortable with this" and I see a husband who is saying "I think your going back to your old ways". Now, I have to agree with claireb here, I think he is trying to use that exact phrase to manipulate you into doing what he wants.

This is not about a threesome, this is about your husband not respecting your boundaries. Whether or not you participated in a threesome in the past, this time you say you do not wish to, and have said no. Queen, I think you need to think about this as I believe from what I am reading that this is the issue that you need to address - a lack of enforcing boundaries.

What is right for you now? Answer this question and let your H know. If he doesn't listen, keep repeating your answer until he does. By the way, do you feel you can do that with him?

Anyway, just my take on the matter. I could be wrong, it happened once before. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />
Chow
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<small>[ May 01, 2003, 06:25 AM: Message edited by: Seahorse ]</small>

Bump ^^