she said she had a place to stay on fri night. she was planning on moving in with her girlfriend. sunday afternoon she called to talk to our daughter and me. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> . she said-half crying-she wanted to come home and i said me too. we talked a little and dinner as a family.we talked a little later once little one was in bed. she said where was the place you you have to stay. i told her. i got the impression that she might want me to leave again. afraid to ask her too much- she had read a couple of books over the weekend. she thinks im obsessive cumpulsive and a sex addict.didnt really see that but....

Remorseful

You are doing well, you are talking. Keep open the lines of communication which is so very vital at this desperately difficult time.

Don't try and assume anything about how she may or may not feel, but keep doing what you are. Have you read through all the info here, got Surviving an Affair? These may really help you at the moment.

The other thing which I think is quite apt is try not to evaluate every last thing that is said or done, but look for patterns of behaviour. I know this is usually applied to the WS, but I think it can be pertinent too to a BS where the FWS is trying to put things right. It seems that her current patterns of behaviour are a) she is extremely distressed and hurt (naturally) b) still communicating with you c) allowing your help with certain things (i.e. your D, house cleaning etc. which is positive she is letting you in) and d) asking you to go, but not really enforcing it (so it's a thought, but there is still a lot of uncertainty there).

You're doing well. Now, what are you doing to help yourself through this difficult time. You will be no good for your W if you collapse and burn through the stress. And believe me, I know how stressful those early weeks can be.

Take care of yourself.

Lisa