Blah,

I won't post here anymore, I was sincerely just looking for help with a difficult problem. All people suffer so no big deal.

Enough already. Just stop the victim mode ok? Your ‘suffering’ is self-imposed so it is not really suffering. It’s a life style choice. Sometimes the best help a person can get is the blunt truth and a kick in the rump. So you got that here.. it’s what you need. As a grown man you do not need coddling. Shoot, even children do not need coddling.

If you want help with your problems then let’s start by looking at things in the light of day, with radical honesty.

There is no reason for you to stop posting here if you are truly looking to end your affair and rebuild your marriage. What I would advise is that you bring your wife here and the two of you post together. That would be a very good first step toward radical honesty in your relationship.