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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by A.M.Martin:
<strong>Any advice, Zorweb -- or anyone? I've got my popcorn and a front-row seat. But I've been waiting for Act II for a long, long time now.</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Live to your full potential and don't back down a bit ... claim your space. As long as you write your own scripts and don't let their actions get to you <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> it would get to them bad. Act II would be OW LB'ed your WH since she doesn't like to see you too close to WH. She would try to keep him away. Go to all public places that you use to go with WH .... claimed your teritory. One more thing, you forget the large coke. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

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Living well is the best revenge. Sounds like you are doing that very well. Good for you.

The iceberg theory? I agree totally. That is why I made the comments I did. What ever nutty/bad stuff you see in public, it’s much worse when they are together. Also your H’s ‘hanging’ around the parameter of your space is very interesting. Could be a longing or could be a control issue. But it does not matter, don’t put too much energy into trying to figure out what a WS and an OP are thinking. They usually are not.

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Hi A.M.

You take the prize for guts and coolness.

I can't imagine that your H thought things would go this way. It must be quietly making him crazy. I think you're on the right track.

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Maybe they thought I would just drift away...or die...

I suspect him hanging on the periphery of my space is a control issue. Almost everything with him is.

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AM,

I am certainly in awe of how well you handle yourself. Most of us could not get within spitting distance of the OW without, hm.... can't say it all here...... lol!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

IMHO, you are doing quite well. Take care and hold your head up high. OW can't, it's stuck between her legs!!! LOL <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

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Since we will see each other at social gatherings, it won't be possible to always not "see" him, anyway.

My own feeling is that he's cutting me off, getting chummier with OW, and that a D is inevitable now. That it's just a matter of time. But I really have no sense of the dynamics. H was playing immature mind games before he moved out, can't believe he's stopped them. But maybe he has.

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IMHO, I thnk your best ammo is living well. Think of the ability you have....able to smack the OW senseless without having to lift a finger. Let others do that for you.

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I think you're probably right.

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Do something OUTSTANDING for the community!

Voulenteer .... start a fund .... get some public recognition with YOUR name on it.

THAT is living well .... and it's NOT "for revenge" it's for YOU and your community.

"Cool" <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> and "Classy" <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> are YOUR middle names! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

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I have.

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