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Ac2ally, all: I'm thinking of setting up a space in the house (one of the rooms not under construction or full of boxes of stuff, that is) where she can have an office of sorts for all her textbooks and things for her class (and work). She's got ridiculously little (read "no") space to work in. I hadn't thought much about it, because we really haven't been able 2 do anything but work on the house when we're home. And it didn't really hit me that *I* have workspace, because I keep my scopes in the garage where I have all my woodworking tools that we use on the house... ...didn't hit me that even though it's space for working on the house, it's *my* space, in effect. So, she had put a small bookcase in the dining room to use for some of her stuff. I'm going to do something like free up a couple more and make a more useable space in the dining room for her for when she comes home. Means I'll have to hog in2 the contractor's "field office" quite a bit, but 2 bad (he's seldom here anyway, and he can use his van!). Maybe I'll put a jar of flowers from the garden in there, 2, just before I go 2 get her from the airport? ...but no pictures, sorry Blind Sided (I'd have 2 use a fisheye lens anyway!). <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> ol' 2long
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I think you get it better and better as time goes on. You are on the right track.
There is a difference between accomadating someone, and activly seeking their happiness. She knows the difference.
My W responded, and I bet yours does too.
Have you learned how to be radically honest (with feelings) yet?
If not, don't expect her to do something you are not willing to do.
( Pep, did I say that right? )
2long, that's just a friendly reminder.
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Hi SS: 2 answer your email 2uestion, yes, I'm on that "other time" for the next few days. Feels normal for now, but by 2sday, I'll be getting up a few hours later than normal! Then it's back 2 normal work schedule. Kind of like flying across the country! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> I think I'm doing pretty good with my honesty about my feelings lately. I worry about something though. Is it normal 2 have this wave of "I could take it or leave it now" feeling? It's almost anticlmactic. Now that I don't have 2 feel like I'm "at war" with RM for my W's affections, but still get a feeling of contempt of M on her part (perhaps entirely in my own imagination, though), I feel kinda bleah about the whole thing... I'm sure it's just temporary, but is it normal? -ol' 2long
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Well, normal or not, it pretty much passed! At least mostly. Each call on the phone is bringing us closer. Can't wait until she gets home next week. ...she found out from x-coworker that RM finally sent back the stuff he was working on. Not all the work done on it, but they told him 2 just send it back and they'd finish, so that's what he did! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> -ol' 2long
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Some days not much comes to mind. I still think about you though, and wonder how you are.
There are always lots of bad thoughts that come to me, (not about you, just stating how life is) mostly I just replace them with better ones.
I hope your conversatons continue to get better, and that she likes her homecoming.
How is son doing, you haven't said much?
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Hi SS: Well, while I've been busy at work last week and through 2day with this weird schedule, I do ask him, but I literally hadn't the energy 2 help him with his homework if he needed it. He thanked me one morning for making coffee. Said he stayed awake the whole day in school! Now that's nifty. Then, I asked how His2ry was going (the one he was failing) and he said they had a test, and he got the highest grade in the class! We just need 2 keep that up! (and yes, if it takes it, I'll pour coffee down his throat EVERY morning 2 do it! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> ) -ol' 2long
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It's 2uiet out there! (perhaps 2 2uiet?)... How many of you have heard a song about a painting before? That's what I thought. So, 2 bump this back up 2 page 1 so SS will see it (but not 2 give him anything 2 comment on in the process <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> ), here's one: "The Night Watch," -King Crimson Shine! Shine! The light of good works shine! The watch before the city gates depicted in their prime. That golden light, all grimy now. Three hundred years have passed The worthy Captain and his squad of troopers standing fast. The artist knew their faces well, the husbands of his lady friends. His creditors and councillors. In armour bright, the merchant men. Official moments of the guild in poses keen from bygone days. The city fathers frozen there, upon the canvas dark with age. The smell of paint, a flask of wine and turn those faces all to me. The blunderbuss and halberd-shaft and Dutch respectability. They make their entrance one by one, defenders of that way of life. The redbrick home, the bourgeoisie and guitar lessons for the wife. So many years we suffered here. Our country racked with Spanish wars. Now comes a chance to find ourselves, and quiet reigns behind our doors. We think about posterity again! And so the pride of little men, the burghers good and true. Still living through the painter's hand, request you all to understand . -ol' 2long
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OK, I won't comment.
La, LaLa, Hmmmm, Hm de dumm, Not commenting,
Not commenting. La, La, LaLa Laaaaaaa......
Couldn't think of anything anyway. Nice song, makes you think.
Not commenting,
NOT, NOT, NOT.
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It is kind of quiet for a Tuesday, I thought you knew something I didn't.
?? No??
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SS: I think a lot of MB folk units are off on vacation or some such. I'm going 2 take the next 2 weeks off as well, but I'm going 2 spend most of it working on the house... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> ...and maybe posting! Like I said in an email 2 you recently, I think things are really starting 2 2rn around over here at the ol' 2long estate. It's ac2ally pretty easy not 2 LB these days. Of course, she's still out of town and will be until Friday, but we talk a lot on the phone and that's nice. She's starting 2 wonder if she should have taken this job. I admitted that I wondered 2, but it's her choice and the kids and I will stand behind her decisions, pretty much whatever they are. She'll have the oppor2nity 2 let this job go in a month or 2 if she decides that's what she wants. -2long.
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I'm going 2 take the next 2 weeks off as well, but I'm going 2 spend most of it working on the house... ...and maybe posting! When doing construction work, it is good to take breaks every so often to........ to take a break. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> Sure you'll stay away, just like me. I'm gone almost all this week, and here I am. I dont' have enough time to get ready for my trip, have to pack tonight and leave tomorrow, and here I am. Oh well, at least I'm among friends. I did get some work done at work today. Not saying how much. SS
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hello 2long...
it's been a long time since i've replied to one of your threads... i have been following along... it's nice to see you on an up note...
my husband and i have had some time apart off and on over the last 18 months... we are in the middle of a time apart now... i too find the dynamics between us shifts when we are apart... there is a genuine sense of longing that goes on... i have more access to his emotions and he seems more willing to accept mine...
i find it interesting that your wife was able to say “i love you” during this time apart... i’m sure it’s something she’s been wanting to tell you for quite some time... i wish i knew why distance makes it easier to open up...
on the flip side (for husband an me) i wish i knew how to maintain that level of openness once we are reunited... i hope your reunion is full of “i love you”...
oaktown...
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oaktown: How are you!? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> It is easier at times 2 say emotional feelings-related heaviousity stuff on the phone, isn't it!? I am hopeful and optimistic that we'll be able 2 keep it up and improve on it even when she gets home. I talked 2 her 3 separate times on the phone this afternoon! And she's probably going 2 come home 2morrow after all! (better get that office set up for her if I can figure out how! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> ) ♥2long
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Yep! I'm picking her up at the airport this evening. Gots 2 get some stuff done here at work REAL fast so I can go home, do laundry, and see if I can figure out how 2 set up that office space for her! should be fun! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> -ol' 2long <small>[ August 13, 2003, 11:37 AM: Message edited by: 2long ]</small>
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You sound like someone in love.
I think that's cool.
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SS: Heck, I'm scared 2 death! That laundry pile is GIMONGOUS! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> -2long
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Well, Black Dangit already!
I'm still at work! And I'm not done with what I needed 2 get done! Going 2 stop right now and go home.
But I'm bugged. I pick my W up at the airport at 6 and I've got a ton of laundry that I planned on doing while setting up her office space. When I realized I couldn't get away sooner, I called my MIL 2 see if she could start the laundry, but her car won't start!
Dag Nabbit!
...I'll be okay, I just wanted 2 surprise her.
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2long,
You're way too cute here! Here's what to do since you're out of time.
Give her a card; even if it's homemade and put inside a "gift certificate" for those things you wanted to do before she got home! I know you would rather have her early with nothing done; than on Friday with everything done perfectly.
She will find your desire to have done these things for her endearing I'll bet! So a gift certificate for the completion of her very own office space at your house & a gift certificate for x-amount of loads of laundry!! She'll find you irresistable this way! CSue
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CSue: Great Idea!!! ...particularly since I put a load of laundry in the washingmachine and found that there was just barely enough soap 2 do the one load! And the kids are out, and there's dirty dishes in the sink that they promised wouldn't be, and ... I leave in about 15 minutes 2 pick her up! Going 2 have 2 be a very impromp2 card!(Hey! I've never gotten 2 use a 2 in THAT word be4! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> I feel so, so, so... goofy! -2long
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Okay, I made a card! (it says "CARD!" in big graphite letters on the front, but I had to cross out the company name that's on every page of the notepad I used.) Now, I just need 2 go out in the yard and pick a rose 2 take with me!. Wish me luck! I'll need it! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> -ol' crusty 2long
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