To update those who have followed, I went to IC yesterday (Tuesday) and I feel pretty good about the therapist. He seems pretty to-the-point with me and I think that is good for me. I don't want a therapist to candy-coat my problems and errors.

My W went as well, as it turns out it is a H and W team. I asked her how it went and she said that a lot of the time was spent on filling out the paperwork and that the therapist asked some questions. I know they probably talked more than she tells me, but I understand that she doesn't want to talk to me about it right now. That is ok with me, (sincerly) she can take the time she needs before she talks about her therapy.

After the session, I needed to go to work and the drive would only take 5-10 minutes and I had about an hour. I pulled out a noebook and started writingto my W. It felt good. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> I rested for about 20 minutes (feel unrested each morning). I then drove to my job and had more thoughts on my brain and added them onto the note. I liked writing to her. I rested for a few, then reported to work.

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WMP...one thing that my H and I did for therapy was to write down what we thought our problems were individually and as a couple. We asked the IC their opionion and then jointly did a treatment plan with the IC. I read somewhere that the most effective treatment comes when you partner with your therapist. Don't let them do all the work...takes lot longer then.

Other thing my H did was write down the entire story of the A..he started with the few weeks leading up to start of A and then every detail he could remember of the A and dday and after dday.

It ended up being like 15 pages...it was therapeutic of him, for me and it gave the counselor something to work with. She took him through the painful, step by step process of his written story and helped him sort the whole thing out. It was grueling for both of them but very beneficial. It took several sessions to get through the whole thing. At the end though he knew exactly what happened everystep of the way and how to deal with things differently. They went into all level of detail, what happened, where, what was he thinking, what wasn't he thinking, what should he have been thinking.

Anyway..something to think about.