Yea, you're right. This is all so foreign to me and I don't want to do anything that would imply "alienation" as my Mr. Folded Arms calls it!

They all love their home. Their own beds. And since their dad is just down the street it will probably be easier in the long run. They can have their time w/ him then just walk home!

I really hate that my children, his children too, feel extremely uncomfortable around him. My son was the one who said that he didn't even know who his dad was anymore. All I can think about is that my kids are now a statistic. That their sweet little hearts are forever scared and mommy couldn't do anything to protect them from this pain.

On a slightly different topic, this week should be a little more active as far as my "limbo" is concerned. I am hoping to get some answers. Pray for strength for me b/c as you all know out there life can change dramatically from day to day. And I don't know how much strength I have left after last weeks fun.

Orchid, I've been meaning to touch base w/ you but as you've read I was pretty overwhelmed. How are things for you? Wanna come out to FL?! The weather is beautiful now!

Help me out here guys. Tonight my son was talking to my WH about how my son was going to get home from football practice. I was going to be on the other side of town and WH said he might not be able to take son home b/c he was meeting w/ a client.

I have a couple of problems here:
Right now my son is on overload. He was out late last night at a youth concert w/ church. This morning he left on a school field trip that was over 2 hours away. LONG DAY FOR HIM. He is tired and not really wanting to go to practice but he needed to go so he would be able to play in the game on Sat. I basically put my foot down and said that if dad could not bring him home he would have to miss practice and not play on Sat. (which he doesn't care about playing at this point) and pick up again next week w/ regular practice. On the phone my WH started yelling at son. He puts his dad on speaker phone and I heard him saying "don't give me an attitude. You better not be disrespectful w/ me or I'll beat your [censored]". Now I was in the same room w/ my son and he wasn't being disrespectful. He was wiped out and didn't care one way or another if he went to practice.

Somebody tell me what the he## is his problem?! He hasn't called all week just to say hi to the kids. He hasn't asked to see them or take them out to dinner this week. It's almost Friday now. I'M TALKING ALL WEEK. He's angry and he's taking it out on the kids. He doesn't know anything about how my son's day went b/c he didn't even bother to ask!! And for those of you who don't know my situation...WH LIVES ON THE SAME STREET AS US, ONLY A FEW HOUSES AWAY. It's not like he's clear across town!

So stupid me, when he hung up w/ son there was still some confusion about how he would get home. So I called him back to offer a solution, maybe I could leave early from my class, or another teammate could take him home etc.. Well he answered the phone...YES?!... As far as he knew it was our son on the other line, not me. I said to him "If our son was the one calling is that how you answer the phone?" So I just said nevermind, bye M. and hung up the phone.

The kids are struggling w/ our situation and they need their dad. I want their dad to be there for them. He is making this all about him and not even considering the children. He created this mess our family is living in. I've given him the wings of freedom. Bye, bye now!!

So what's his problem? He is so free. He does anything he wants to do now and doesn't answer to anybody. What more could he want? I'm not here at home pining away for him. I'm trying to close this chapter of my life. Lesson learned. He chose other women. He told me I was never much of a woman. So now I'm out. Why the continued anger?

Wow! It is amazing what destruction comes from a simple seed of love. One that is not germinated, one that tries to grow up on the stony or thorny ground. The cares of the world and the deceitfulness of wealth! It looks like your seed made it into the good soil which continually needs tilling to keep the ground rich!

Being a man and having to face my WW and her not wanting me to have the kids gives me a twinge to think that he does not want to see them. He is selfish! I am sure no light bulbs went off on this. I was like this man in the sense that I did not share the quality time with my kids or my wife. Without details - I was a person living in fear - fear that I would be discovered as a fake and fear that I could never measure up to my wife's desires. I don't know what he thinks and in fact at this point it doesn't even matter! You are making a change that will help the kids and not WH. Stop thinking that you can help him! WH is lost! (been for a long time) As you told me - he is an alien acting like an alien not knowing what he is doing but only seeing where he thinks he is going.

You are standing up - be there loving mother and if WH chooses to be a jerk then that is his loss in the end. Just log it down and share it with your attorney when he asks. My WW has me crying everyday since I can't see the children. Look at this as a blessing! You get to have more time with them; your are love and you are sharing with them the truest person who has ever Loved US! Wow! What a blessing! Freedom to live for HIM! Freedom to show your kids that in HIM all things are possible! No more fear of it being used against you - now you can express yourself! Be that light unto the world - the one that is not covered! Blaze! Blaze! Blaze! Do they pray for him! Do they understand that he is a man caught up in his own selfish desires and sin?

Be glad that they don't have to see WH with OW! At least I hope so. Your kids do need a dad! They do need ther father! But right now he is neither. Show them the Father that has sacrificed all for them! They will then learn what being a Dad really means and hopefully this will give them the love. Do they have grandparents that love them? That are supportive? Not the ones that support WH but that support BW?

You are in my prayers! Your struggles are righteous! Your struggles are refining! What an amazing Butterfly (Saint) <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> you are becoming! Keep the Faith!