Ruby what amazing news! My own NC tips are:

1) Blocking is key. Well done for getting started but keep going. New number and email address that he can't access from an unknown number, be prepared to throw away mail unopened, get an intermediary (there's a thread on here somewhere) and block your friends from passing messages. Literally hang up on them.
2) Keep busy. What kind of stuff hasn't been getting done while the life has been getting drained out of you? What dreams big and small can you go after now you don't have an anchor weighing you down? Every weekend now needs to be planned ahead.
3) Treat both alcohol and men like they are nuclear devices.
4) This may be a me-thing but funny movies, pedicures and girls nights in got me further than anything else.
5) pack away momentos and photos, don't moon over his horoscope, and snap an elastic band on your wrist every time you slip into 'what if' land.
6) Keep on logging in for support and accountability. If you slip up, you'll have to confess to us. If you don't confess we can tell anyway. This last one was the only thing that kept me in line one crazy night.

Oh and welcome to your new life!

The IM training thread is in here in the Plan B Correctly thread.

Thanks Indiegirl and brainhurts. I'm not doing NC because I am in hopes of saving the marriage. I'm doing NC to protect myself, self care...I am just ready for this to be totally over with so I can close this 14 year chapter of my life. Thanks for all the support...and of course all the support you give to others on this website/forum.

That is exactly the reason that everyone should do NC. Regardless of what they later decide. I think you'll do great.

Jus wanted to update . On July 3rd, I became officially divorced. The last 18 months have been absolutely gut wrenching. In February, I received an email disclosure of my husbands infidelity. 6 women 2 prostitutes. Fast forward to May, I have basically been house sitting for my husband since feb 28th as he was traveling abroad for over 4 months. When he got home, I was packing up to leave and he asked me to please hold off on the divorce. That he would begin therapy. He went for 10 sessions, he really liked her and was getting a lot out of the session.

In a conversation, he asked me what I needed to fix things. Told him I needed him to take a polygraph so there were no more lies or deceit and if he told me everything in his first disclosure, then he wouldn�t have a problem. He refused. He went to a therapy session on the following day. Then told me she wanted to see us both the next day. I wasn�t prepared....I wasn�t prepared to have him give me a full disclosure....it was done so wrong. But, the truth set him free. 22....22 women, most in the last 7 years of our marriage. Not emotional affairs, just sex with basically random strangers he hooked up with on dating sites. Sick...so sick this man is. Anyway, though he was going to therapy he did none of the things the therapist said were imperative in making me feel safe before leaving on his next trip abroad. That was it....I demanded he meet me to sign the uncontested divorce papers on jun 18th. He did, he left on his trip on 20th. He returns on 15th. Staying here till 14th. Enjoying the last couple weeks....of the yard I made into an oasis, the pool that I kept spotless....I�m am at such amazing peace.....knowing he is no longer my problem, at peace knowing his addiction, his sickness is no longer my problem.

God has lead through this....I am so thankful for his blessings.....and I�m also thankful that the divorce was amicable....and my ex-husband and I are friends.

That�s it....thanks for reading and carry on.

Well done Ruby and congratulations on getting this done quickly and efficiently. Now please stay in Plan B for the rest of your life. No being 'friends with your XH'. That will destroy your peace in a heartbeat.

Glad to hear you were able to get free, Ruby. Don't forget to keep this up so you can maintain your peace and recover.

I don't know what the therapist was recommending, but there's simply no way you could feel safe in a marriage with nights apart like that. Especially nights apart in separate countries. Especially nights apart when your husband has a history of offensive sexual behavior. If there are any rare exceptions to this in the world they aren't situations where one spouse has a history of infidelity or sex addiction.