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Can it be - the ave couple really chats 27 minutes per week? I read that in an article somewhere. My big complaint is lack of chatting, communication in this marriage of mine that's gone to hell. Why do we marry if we dont' even communicate. I thought marriage was to have support and companionship, what I've got is far from it but if this stat is true, then I'm better off then most as my husband actually chats with me now and then for over 10 minutes at a time.
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That sounds awfully low to me. Then again, I’m very high maintenance so getting 27 minutes a day is a very low day for me…it usually only happens when we’re not in the same city.
I worry less about what’s ‘average’ or ‘normal’ than I do about what is going to work for me and my H.
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I think it depends too on family dynamic, how many people are in the house etc. I know when we were first married, and it was only the two of us, we talked constantly. Then first one child, and then multiples came along, and the time we spent together just talking, the two of us, was reduced. Now we have four kids, and his sister and nephew living with us, and I can't even carry on a private conversation with myself, much less him. I guess we get to occassionally, we probably are getting in more than 27 min per week, but not by much I imagine.
The relationship suffers from not getting more time in for us, but we are trying to manage it. I have no idea how we would get 15 hours a week in!
<small>[ November 10, 2004, 04:18 PM: Message edited by: trying2Bhappy ]</small>
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So we are told to marry, have babies and live happily ever after and the truth of it is we don't even have time for each other once we get there. Someone told me about a cartoon, one woman was so naive, happily planning for a wedding, another woman was shopping with two screaming kids, totally frazzled, out of shape with a husband watching tv... fantasy vs. reality. If I had know that getting married I'd be lucky to get 27 minutes of conversation with my husband I'd have NEVER gotten married. I think it's time that people grow up and communicate, eat together, spend time together and stop blaming it all on how busy and stressed out we are. It's no excuse. What are we going to do go to our graves happy that we spent no times with our families?
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I don't know, we spent about 1 1/2 hours talking while making dinner and eating dinner this evening. We'll probably talk a little more tonight while relaxing in our respective ways too. It's not like it's a chore or something.
27 minutes per week? Phah, more like 27 hours in this home and that's not counting the SF time eiter. I'm not sure where these people pull these statistics out from.
<small>[ November 10, 2004, 05:17 PM: Message edited by: Nduli2 ]</small>
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