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She also Went away last week Tuesday night I'm trying to piece this together from your extremely, frustratingly, limited replies. She lives with her mother. Where did she go away to? Do you mean that she did not go home to her mother's that night? Where did she say she was?
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No she has been staying at her mom for 3 weeks
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No she has been staying at her mom for 3 weeks Sorry - what question is this answering?
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She has come clean about the affair. Tells me she loves the other guy and doesn’t want to reconcile
What now?
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She has come clean about the affair. Tells me she loves the other guy and doesn’t want to reconcile
What now? What do you know about this fellow?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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One of my best mates. Also 3 kids. We are neighbors. He is 44 and my wife 29. Our kids are best mates. I know a lot
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One of my best mates. Also 3 kids. We are neighbors. He is 44 and my wife 29. Our kids are best mates. I know a lot Is he married? Read Exposure 101 and wait for further instructions.
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Why on earth should she be able to decide if you will fight for your marriage or not? Either you think all is swell with your "mate" doing who-knows-what with your wife and all of you will be best buddies and a big diverse family for ever after, or... Or you take up all your courage and sum up a plan to keep your kids in a safe place. And you bet, the not-so-merry-go-round of the affair ain't it. Read about how to save your marriage or go into your corner to wither and die and let the two egoists with their rose-colored glasses rule your life. Plan AAnd be so kind to give some info, so that we may help you. Unless you just want to blog while this goes down the drain.
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As a first: stop calling him a "mate". Mates don't sleep with your wife...
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One of my best mates. Also 3 kids. We are neighbors. He is 44 and my wife 29. Our kids are best mates. I know a lot FAbes, there is a strong chance you can save your marriage if you can follow a plan. Can you follow a plan? The first step would be to expose the affair using the tactics outlined in the thread linked in my signature. Everyone should know about the affair. Please go read Exposure 101 and come back here to discuss. You will also have to move away if you stand any hope of recovering. Even if your marriage doesn't make it, you will want to move to get away from the constant reminder of the OM.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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One of my best mates. Also 3 kids. We are neighbors. He is 44 and my wife 29. Our kids are best mates. I know a lot IS HE MARRIED?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Hi
Yes he is married
We have been family friends for years. His kids and my kids in same school and best mates
We live in a small city and the affair has been exposed and everyone knows about it. They have both been crucified at the moment and I think my wife is pursuing it more than anything. He is now trying to reconcile but I don’t know if my is going to back off.
So she asked for a divorce but never summonsed me. So I think she was keeping her options open waiting for him to call for a divorce.
I have rushed to my lawyer and summonsed her although I do want to reconcile.
I am able to stick to a plan
I think she has been depressed and this was a way out. She has definately been living a fantasy and right now I believe she is unaware of what she is actually doing.
Awaiting advise from you guys
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We live in a small city and the affair has been exposed and everyone knows about it. To whom was this exposed and what did you say? Were your children told? What about the OM's wife? Your wife's parents? You are going to stop being so vague if you want help.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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