I am not and have not seen the ow in any capacity. The ow tried to fb message me once in December and I immediately told my wife and we together deleted the message to which I never responded. I honestly have no desire to be in or continue the affair .

I am in agreement to do what it takes. I will and have no problem taking a polygraph test.

You haven’t deleted all social media?

Have you changed your number yet?

The above is exactly why social media should be completely eliminated. Telling your wife about contact obviously does not prevent contact. You know this. All means of contact must be eliminated. Saying you have no desire to be an affair is meaningless. You have to back that up with action steps and actually block it from happening.

What other ways can the OW contact you?

You haven't answered my question about your workplace.

I only use fb I do not have any other social media. Yes I could be using work as a cover but I am not using company property for a affair it could get me in trouble and I would not risk that. Also if I delete fb that is how I stay in contact with friends and family but if I need to delete my fb account I will. My wife and I use messenger for communication so what is the suggestion there?

Before social media there was email. If your wife needs you to eliminate social media, then you should just do it. Recovery of the marriage starts with eliminating all the conditions that led to the affair. If it was through social media, eliminate it. Some people even give up their cell phone and obtain a flip phone. Sometimes people have opted for supervised Internet access to eliminate the possibility of getting on dating apps and the like. It may sound draconian to some, but doing these things are just the start to recovery.

Changing your work number and possibly work email may indeed be inconvenient, but if you let HR know you had an affair and need to do this, they will surely do it for you.

Recovery of the marriage after an affair is possible, but it will take a great deal of effort from both of you. You must learn to be completely transparent and never do anything without the enthusiastic agreement of your spouse.

You "only" use facebook? Did you not say this above?




That tells me you are not serious.


I have never ever known a cheater who was worried about getting in trouble. Even so, I can't imagine why you would get in trouble at work for talking to your OW on the phone. Why? What type of job do you have where they would even know or care? This makes no sense to me.


Delete it.