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I don't know where else to post this or if this topic is even appropriate for this site, but here goes...

What is person supposed to do when they are no longer "turned on" or aroused by their partner? There are several factors relating to this, but the bottom line is, I am not sexually attracted to my wife and we stopped having sex well over ten years ago.

I'm going to stop there for now, and ask - do I continue, should I be referred elsewhere in this site, or somewhere else completely?
I am still going over the Basic Concepts of this site and I intend to keep going in my main post "Hello, I am new", but I thought I would just put this question out there.


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because raised expectations are consistently crushed and lead to nothing but disappointment.
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Pornography and masturbation do a great deal of harm to a marriage. They alone could be responsible for your lack of interest in sex with your wife.

This article gives you the complete answer to your problem. Please read it.


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Originally Posted by SugarCane
Pornography and masturbation do a great deal of harm to a marriage. They alone could be responsible for your lack of interest in sex with your wife.

This article gives you the complete answer to your problem. Please read it.


I know that P & M have had a great deal to do with my loss of interest, although resentments and disappointments have also taken a major toll in our relationship. It's such a mess at this point.


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The libido aspect will be dealt with by following the advice in that article and giving up pornography and masturbation. The other emotional feelings will be dealt with by focusing on eliminating love busters (of which I would guess pornography and masturbation are significant to your wife) and discovering each other's emotional needs, and learning how to meet them.


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