I'm not at all clear whether you are actually worried about this colleague, or whether you should be. You mentioned him very briefly a few posts ago. You said that your wife was talking to someone on her cellphone and lied and told you it was your former maid. Days later, she confessed to lying and said it was her colleague.

The whole colleague thing could be a complete red herring, because you don't know who she was talking to, but something made you upset enough to mention it here. However, I don't want you focusing on the wrong person, or even focusing on something that isn't there. You need to find out who she talks to on a regular basis. "I don't know" isn't a good enough answer. We can't help you until you get moving on this.

A few posts ago, you said "Spying is going well. just started..."

How exactly are you spying? What have you found?

no I am focussing on right person, I asked her to stop talking to him and no contact with him but she said stop talking to your friends first than I will stop...she don't like my friends..