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Should I get a p.i

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Originally Posted by Solecastle
Should I get a p.i
You know the guys name, correct? So don’t you have all his information? His name?

Is he married?

Do you have his contact information on any social media he has?

Can afford a PI? Do you need one?


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I know his name but that's it

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Originally Posted by Solecastle
I know his name but that's it

Have you looked for him on social media? Can you find his contact information to save for when you do exposure? Have you read the exposure thread?


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Originally Posted by Solecastle
I know his name but that's it
I only knew the OW in my marriage's name, but within minutes of searching for her online I knew her husband's name and employer (with phone number), and their home address and phone number. From there I tracked down their children's names and schools, and finally her maiden name, which opened up another world (her employer and several details about the affair) - and that was long before the days of social media, AND she lived in another country.

You need to treat this a lot more urgently and start working. You seem to have been very laid back, given that you knew she was having an affair.

Why do you need an expensive PI? You can do so much detection on your own, if only you can be bothered.

Your one-line answers, lacking in enthusiasm and urgency, are demotivating me. I'm not going to do more work on this than you.


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Yes I found his Facebook I know where he works and I started working on getting more information as for my one line answers I've been at work when I answer these questions so I am sorry

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Originally Posted by Solecastle
Yes I found his Facebook I know where he works and I started working on getting more information as for my one line answers I've been at work when I answer these questions so I am sorry
Is the OM married or has a girlfriend? Did you find his parents? Any siblings?


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Om is single I couldnt find his parents at or siblings has his Facebook pretty private I know he has a younge daughter though

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Originally Posted by Solecastle
Om is single I couldnt find his parents at or siblings has his Facebook pretty private I know he has a younge daughter though
Can you afford a PI? Have you searched any other social media? Did he used to work at Walmart with her? Do the coworkers who told you about the affair know anything?

Have you tried running a background check to see what comes up?


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So the used to work together until she left the job. The coworkers told me they where spending lots of time together days she worked late she was with him. As for running background checks in doing that as we speak.

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Originally Posted by Solecastle
So the used to work together until she left the job. The coworkers told me they where spending lots of time together days she worked late she was with him. As for running background checks in doing that as we speak.

Let us know what you find out?

Have you read the exposure thread?


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I have read it in not sure how it's gonna make her change her mind about leaving me sounds like it's just gonna really cement her decision

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So I have his address and a list of possible family on him so far

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Now I am just gathering evidence

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Originally Posted by Solecastle
Now I am just gathering evidence
Were you able to get family information on him? What family is it? Can you find his parents?


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Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.



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