Welcome to the
Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum
This is a community where people come in search of marriage related support, answers, or encouragement. Also, information about the Marriage Builders principles can be found in the books available for sale in the Marriage Builders® Bookstore.
If you would like to join our guidance forum, please read the Announcement Forum for instructions, rules, & guidelines.
The members of this community are peers and not professionals. Professional coaching is available by clicking on the link titled Coaching Center at the top of this page.
We trust that you will find the Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum to be a helpful resource for you. We look forward to your participation.
Once you have reviewed all the FAQ, tech support and announcement information, if you still have problems that are not addressed, please e-mail the administrators at
mbrestored@gmail.com
|
|
|
|
Joined: Sep 2008
Posts: 9,549 Likes: 10
Member
|
Member
Joined: Sep 2008
Posts: 9,549 Likes: 10 |
I might be missing the point, but what does that have to do with your dislike of your husband's sarcastic and biting comments, and his dismissal of your complaints about them?
BW
Married 1989
His PA 2003-2006
2 kids.
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Jun 2019
Posts: 13
Junior Member
|
|
OP
Junior Member
Joined: Jun 2019
Posts: 13 |
How I approach him and the bad habits we have with each other.
My historical method for making a complaint hasn't exactly encouraged him to hear me or work with me on a solution. So, he dismisses my complaint as 'no sense of humor'. Then, with a hurt attitude I either withdraw or lash out. All so very unproductive, unloving and self-defeating.
Rereading that article really helped me 'stand in front of the mirror' and realize that I can approach him in a better way. One that doesn't make him feel defensive, which tends to cause him to dig in his heels and dismiss my complaint. I can stop the merry-go-round by going to him in love and with respect instead of going at him in spite and with hurt feelings. Which would *I* respond to better as well?
Yes, I did go a bit down the rabbit hole, but it really got me thinking.
Not sure of anything anymore.
|
|
|
Moderated by Ariel, BerlinMB, Denali, Fordude, IrishGreen, MBeliever, MBsurvivor, MBSync, McLovin, Mizar, PhoenixMB, Toujours
|
0 members (),
626
guests, and
35
robots. |
|
Key:
Admin,
Global Mod,
Mod
|
|
|
Forums67
Topics133,621
Posts2,323,489
Members71,946
| |
Most Online3,185
Jan 27th, 2020
|
|
|
|
|
|
