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I’m a father of 2, been together with my wife for almost 10 years. She stated she wanted a separation 3 months ago. I didn’t want to give it to her and wanted to do counseling. Which she refused. I just found out that she has been talking to another man long distance. Sending photos of herself in her underwear. I confronted her about it, she denied it. And last night it kept eating at me and I showed her my proof. She finally admitted to it. I gave her her separation but is killing me inside. I still love her so much!! She left the home and I kept the children. But now she wants to return but only for the children. And wants me to leave. I refuse to leave, I refuse to leave my children. This is just so painful, I love that woman so much!
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Welcome to MB. I'm sorry to hear about this event in your marriage.
What do you know about this affair she's been having?
BW
Married 1989
His PA 2003-2006
2 kids.
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Under no circumstances should you leave the house or voluntarily let your kids leave the house. It won't help restore your marriage, and if the marriage isn't restored the best position to be in is if you have stayed in the home raising the children.
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I’m a father of 2, been together with my wife for almost 10 years. She stated she wanted a separation 3 months ago. I didn’t want to give it to her and wanted to do counseling. Which she refused. I just found out that she has been talking to another man long distance. Sending photos of herself in her underwear. I confronted her about it, she denied it. And last night it kept eating at me and I showed her my proof. She finally admitted to it. I gave her her separation but is killing me inside. I still love her so much!! She left the home and I kept the children. But now she wants to return but only for the children. And wants me to leave. I refuse to leave, I refuse to leave my children Doodle Baseball . This is just so painful, I love that woman so much! what you are going through is really painful. You are deeply hurt, but you are still trying to keep things together for the sake of your children. That says a lot about your strength and love. You loved her very much but maybe she didn't. Under no circumstances should you leave. Stay and raise your children well. If the marriage cannot be restored, then the best position is for you to stay home and raise the children.
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I'm really sorry you're going through this. What you’re experiencing—betrayal, heartbreak, the loss of a life you built over a decade—is deeply painful and confusing.
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