Welcome to the
Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum

This is a community where people come in search of marriage related support, answers, or encouragement. Also, information about the Marriage Builders principles can be found in the books available for sale in the Marriage Builders® Bookstore.
If you would like to join our guidance forum, please read the Announcement Forum for instructions, rules, & guidelines.
The members of this community are peers and not professionals. Professional coaching is available by clicking on the link titled Coaching Center at the top of this page.
We trust that you will find the Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum to be a helpful resource for you. We look forward to your participation.
Once you have reviewed all the FAQ, tech support and announcement information, if you still have problems that are not addressed, please e-mail the administrators at mbrestored@gmail.com
Previous Thread
Next Thread
Print Thread
Page 2 of 2 1 2
Lili36 #3017160 02/05/24 09:27 AM
Joined: Jan 2024
Posts: 14
L
Lili36 Offline OP
Junior Member
OP Offline
Junior Member
L
Joined: Jan 2024
Posts: 14
I have not hear back. Does it usually take a while?

Lili36 #3017161 02/05/24 11:53 AM
Joined: Sep 2008
Posts: 9,535
Likes: 9
S
Member
Offline
Member
S
Joined: Sep 2008
Posts: 9,535
Likes: 9
Lili, to where did you address your email?


BW
Married 1989
His PA 2003-2006
2 kids.
SugarCane #3017169 02/06/24 01:21 PM
Joined: Jan 2024
Posts: 14
L
Lili36 Offline OP
Junior Member
OP Offline
Junior Member
L
Joined: Jan 2024
Posts: 14
mbradio@marriagebuilders.com

Lili36 #3017170 02/06/24 01:23 PM
Joined: Sep 2008
Posts: 9,535
Likes: 9
S
Member
Offline
Member
S
Joined: Sep 2008
Posts: 9,535
Likes: 9
Have you tried re-sending it?

When people tell us that they are writing to Dr Harley, we find that he replies within a day. It's not like him not to reply. I would try sending it again.


BW
Married 1989
His PA 2003-2006
2 kids.
Lili36 #3017172 02/06/24 01:57 PM
Joined: Jan 2024
Posts: 14
L
Lili36 Offline OP
Junior Member
OP Offline
Junior Member
L
Joined: Jan 2024
Posts: 14
Okay I just resent the email.

Lili36 #3017182 02/12/24 04:57 PM
Joined: Jan 2024
Posts: 14
L
Lili36 Offline OP
Junior Member
OP Offline
Junior Member
L
Joined: Jan 2024
Posts: 14
Hi guys! My question was answered today on the radio!

Lili36 #3017183 02/12/24 05:23 PM
Joined: Sep 2008
Posts: 9,535
Likes: 9
S
Member
Offline
Member
S
Joined: Sep 2008
Posts: 9,535
Likes: 9
Originally Posted by Lili36
Hi guys! My question was answered today on the radio!
That's great! I'll listen tomorrow. What was the gist of his advice?


BW
Married 1989
His PA 2003-2006
2 kids.
Lili36 #3017184 02/13/24 11:38 AM
Joined: Nov 2010
Posts: 20,438
Likes: 4
B
Member
Offline
Member
B
Joined: Nov 2010
Posts: 20,438
Likes: 4
Originally Posted by Lili36
Hi guys! My question was answered today on the radio!

I heard the clip. What do you think? Are you going to try and get back into counseling with your husband? How to Find a Good Marriage Counselor

What did you think of what Dr. Harley said?


FWW/BW (me)
WH
2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.



Lili36 #3017187 02/14/24 10:10 AM
Joined: Jan 2024
Posts: 14
L
Lili36 Offline OP
Junior Member
OP Offline
Junior Member
L
Joined: Jan 2024
Posts: 14
I loved it. And I would love to go to counseling but my husband just says it's too late. He doesn't want to anymore. He's just done. I love the suggestions they gave me.

Joyce Harley and I and have been in contact via email as well and she suggested to have my husband email reasons if why he wants the divorce (his thinking and reasoning)

My husband barely even wants to talk to me, and when we do I can tell he gets frustrated even though he is trying to control it.

I do not know where to go from here. He wants me sign the uncontested divorce ASAP. I don't want to. He gets mean and angry if I don't. He doesn't want to go to counseling anymore. He'd love to have me out of the house. He is interested in a friendship down the line, but I don't know if I can.


I think what is behind this (I'm not sure if I mentioned it in my original post) is that he is hurt that I didn't move with him for his job. (He was offered a job in a different part of the state, and I stayed behind to finish my degree at the university I went so but ultimately failed classes over and over). I think he has so so so much resentment towards me because he felt lonely and unsupported. And I feel like he cannot see past that resentment at the moment. I feel like he just looks at me and gets mad/annoyed. And I am just not sure if there is a way past the intense resentment. The therapist I am talking to and knows him as well says yes there is, resentment can be overcome if there is genuine change on my part, but it just takes time.

I am not sure what to do frown I am weeks away from being divorced and I truly think we can work through these things. Nothing terrible happened (abuse/cheating.....)

Page 2 of 2 1 2

Link Copied to Clipboard
Forum Search
Who's Online Now
0 members (), 365 guests, and 64 robots.
Key: Admin, Global Mod, Mod
Newest Members
Bibbyryan860, Ian T, SadNewYorker, Jay Handlooms, GrenHeil
71,838 Registered Users
Building Marriages That Last A Lifetime
Copyright © 1995-2019, Marriage Builders®. All Rights Reserved.
Site Navigation
Powered by UBB.threads™ PHP Forum Software 7.7.5