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A family member of mine is age 27 (soon 28) is dating a man in his early 40s (never married, no kids).

There are several issues in the relationship, probably the biggest one (according to her) being that because the family won't accept him or allow him around (he has an extensive arrest record - a recent SO charge that was extinguished.) She feels torn between the relationship and her family.

There are other issues in the relationship, however, such as prior cheating by this man. They have lived together for about two years. She has previously left him only to get back together with him.

She feels stuck in her life because of the turmoil this relationship causes and oftentimes feels that she needs to be alone and figure out the direction that she wants for her life, only to go back to him. She is planning to move out/break up with him but as you can see from this narrative, I am afraid it will not "stick".

Any links or advice that I can pass along? I will send her a link to the thread also.

Thanks so much in advance!


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Originally Posted by SusieQ
A family member of mine is age 27 (soon 28) is dating a man in his early 40s (never married, no kids).

There are several issues in the relationship, probably the biggest one (according to her) being that because the family won't accept him or allow him around (he has an extensive arrest record - a recent SO charge that was extinguished.) She feels torn between the relationship and her family.

There are other issues in the relationship, however, such as prior cheating by this man. They have lived together for about two years. She has previously left him only to get back together with him.

She feels stuck in her life because of the turmoil this relationship causes and oftentimes feels that she needs to be alone and figure out the direction that she wants for her life, only to go back to him. She is planning to move out/break up with him but as you can see from this narrative, I am afraid it will not "stick".

Any links or advice that I can pass along? I will send her a link to the thread also.

Thanks so much in advance!

Was his prior cheating on her or in another relationship?


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Do you have a copy of Buyers, Renters and Freeloaders to give to her?


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Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.




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