My husband and I were together for 7 years. 3 years dating and 4 years marriage.

During dating we both having affairs. I mostly was the one trying to fix and listened to his rants. For a year I let him shouted at me, calling me names, and do whatever he wanted as long he stayed. I was hurt over his affairs but I can’t talk to him about it because I want to mend his pain first. We saw therapist and everything, in the end we decided to get married.

Before we got married I set up boundaries of what is considered cheating and how I don’t want our past affairs contacting us.

There are multiple occasions where he breaks that boundaries, including but not limited to contacting past love affairs and flirts. I never done anything but being the best wife I can. There are occasions where I broke down and had arguments with him because of these affairs. On top of the fact that he barely touched me sexually (I had to beg for kisses), stone wall me, and prioritize his friends. I was alone in our marriage.

At one point he had enough and divorce me. I beg him not to so he settles with separation. We agree to separate with condition that we’re allowed to see other people. I honestly don’t want to see other people but he insisted on it.

I was angry because for 4 years I was good while he had all these girls so I decided to see other people. One of them got serious. I didn’t tell him right away like we agreed to which is my bad.

He got so mad he doesn’t let me in the house unless I apologize for leaving. On my side however I did everything within our agreement so I refuse to apologize. Needless to say he doesn’t want me in the house and since I don’t have my own car plus he cut off my phone service I decided to move in with my new boy friend.

Everyone in his family thinks I’m wrong to do that which I’m fine with but I wasn’t expecting him to agree with them because our arrangement said we can see other people and if anything got serious we just need to tell each other.

Now he wants me back and swore he changed. Am I crazy to divorce him?

Welcome to MB.

If you both are seeing other people then why stay married? It seems you both are done with this relationship. You should divorce before you move on with someone else.