What I meant by loving to much is you can depend on them to much, get so rapped up in another human being that you feel like you couldn't live and function with out them. And<BR>God wants you to depend on him, That he is my source not my Man, God can use the Man as the instrument to give me what I need but it is still coming from God. <BR>I have learned through all this to totally and completely trust God for everything. That God will meet all my needs according to His riches in Glory.<P>And Yes there is EMOTIONAL AFFAIRS, my husband had to talk to the women He was having an affair with everyday he saw her everyweek two to three times a week they did fun things together like shopping going to ball games. And her husband didn't do a thing about it because He wasn't meeting her needs and my husband came in and did. And the devil lied to him saying it was ok as long as we are not having sex. And this affair took finances away, time away etc. etc.<BR>And the world would say its ok to have friends of the opposite sex, a lie from the pit of Hell. If you don't both agree do not do it! My husband was so rapped up in feeding his flesh that He did not even care or see how much pain I was in, He had hardened his heart.<BR>He broke all of the marriage buster rules.<BR>And only by the grace of God did I make it through. <BR>He now admitted to me yesterday that He deliberatly went ahead and continued to see this women even though He knew it was hurting me. And He thanks God for His mercy, and He loves me very much. And I thanked him for his honesty even if it hurt.<BR>I don't understand everything, but I don't care, I trust God to take care of me. And those who don't have God in your life I feel sorry for you, thats like having a billion dollars in the bank and you don't know you can have it and all you had to do to receive it, was just ask.<P>God Bless each and everyone of you!<P>MY pastor said last week, You cannot do anything to stop God from loving you, And you cannot do anything to make him love you.<BR>Praise God! His Mercy endures forever!<P>------------------<BR>Carla

Carla<P>One of the 'major' strongholds in my life and cause for my wife leaving me was; I was 'co-dependent' upon her. I was co-dependent and she was the 'enabler'.<P>When she moved out on me, back in Feb of 96', I almost lost my mind and simply transferred my co-dependency to other people/friends.<P>Co-dependency in its' simplest terms is 'an addiction to a thing or person'. I was addicted to my wife. I found all of my security/identity in her. I have now found all of my security in Jesus.<P>Without realizing it, I was literally draining the very life-blood from her by my co-dependency. Now I can see how it just makes you want to run from the person who is being co-dependent upon you.<P>I can say now, 3-1/2 years later that I am finding ALL of my acceptance & security in Jesus! I am becoming rooted/grounded and estalbished IN HIM and not in my wife! <P>In order to get set free from co-dependency, I literally had to go through withdrawals, much like a drug addict does in getting free from drug addiction.<P>Sounds like you have learned the same lesson and I praise God you and your husband are together and working through things.<P>From what I've read, it sounds like you truly demonstrated AGAPE towards your husband, even though you probably felt like your insides were going to fall out.<P>Continued blessings upon you.<P>[censored]

Thank you [censored]<BR>its nice to know that someone else understands what your going through and have been through. I pray in the name of Jesus that you will be truly happy and have peace beyond understanding. <BR>God bless you in a mighty way<P>------------------<BR>Carla

Carla,<BR>First I want to apologize for misunderstanding what you meant by love to much. I took your words to be literal and didn't extend the meaning to include trying to fill a need that only God can fill. I think my W loved me to much because she expected me to do things only God can do for her. She has told me that I don't make her happy. I have told her that only Jesus can fill the need that she has. As for myself, after becoming saved, I have never put anyone before Him. I have loved others as He wants me to. I love my W and know that He will heal our marriage because He is in control. I just have to stay in continual prayer that I don't become selfish and take matters into my hands. This is tough sometimes particularly when you are in a great deal of pain. That is when I count it all joy.<BR><P>------------------<BR>God Bless,<BR>Rob<P><BR>

Thank you Rob I see you understand, my husband tells me the exact same thing, that only God can fil my need, and That is so right. No person or thing But God. We have to love people with the love of God in us. God loves us unconditionaly and we must do the same and sometimes that means forgiving every minute of the day.<BR>May God Bless you! <P>------------------<BR>Carla

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