Hi SDS,<P>You're at the same spot where I was last Monday night. I implemented Plan B - and it is killing me - however, I feel that I have some control back in my life, and I have a little bit of peace. That is amazing at the moment, I felt that I would never peace again. My mind was constantly on this problem, "what do I do, what do I say, where do I go etc etc etc"<P>Plan B helped calm all that down. I have taken myself out of the equation, H still phones every day for the children, but I CAN handle not speaking to him.<P>The decision really is up to him now. I sent him the loving letter that is recommeded to be sent when Plan B is commenced, so he knows that I love him and am willing to try and repair the marriage when OW is out of picture. Maybe the same would work for you.<P>The sense of peace and well-being that I now have, after all the turmoil, is incredible.<P>Hope you find some too - I'll be wishing you well<P>Jo